Tact-Less?

I think that is an absolutely wonderful idea. Not tacky at all!

Giving tree is an awesome idea!!

I too am having a winter wedding....Here are some of the things I am doing....
1. My b/m`s will be carrying battery powered candles instead of bouquets.
2. My flower girl will be a "snow angel" with snowflakes instead of petals (they could also use fur muffs instead)
3. Using "sparkle ice" from Walmart for the centerpieces, around mini snowglobes
4. Using white lights in the greenery
5. Using gourmet coffee/cocoa or spiced teafor favors

Hope this helps....Best wishes to you

A giving tree is absolutely fabulous!

Your guests are already spending the money to come to your wedding and on a gift for you. Your wedding is not a charity function. To make it known that you would appreciate donations to the charity of your choice at your wedding ceremony or reception would not be appropriate. There`s a time and a place for everything. Your wedding is neither the time nor the place to solicit charitable donations.

Of course it would be Linda to have some neg. To say, seeings how that is all she does!
I think it is a great idea, there are so many people out there that have nothing while many of us take for granted what we do have. If you and Fh really don`t need anything maybe you can spread the word that you are going to have a giving tree instead of accepting gifts. I would be more than happy to donate to the less fortunate than buy a couple something htat don`t want or need. It is nice to see a bride not thinking about herself on her day!

I think it might be a little tacky... Definately a good thing... But i might save it for a different day... Maybe have them donate something at the rehersal dinner... But on your wedding day... I don`t think its the best idea. How would you announce it? In your wedding invitation? I think it`s harder than what it`s worth

That is not all I do.
But she asked! What do you want me to do, lie and tell her it`s okay? If she wanted everyone to just tell her what a wonderful idea it was, then she would not have asked if it was tactless. Besides, I didn`t say it was tactless anyway. I only said it wasn`t the right time or place for this sort of thing.
Grow up, lady.

Haha thank you all for your replies! Although it seems to have confused me even more! Linda, you`re right, I wouldnt have asked if I wasnt prepared for a brutally honest response, thank you! Deborah, I think I might take your advice, I hadn`t thought about the rehersal dinner! I`m still thinking!

I think its a great idea. I think a food donation box would be good.

I do not think it is tactless, just inappropriate. As another poster pointed out, your wedding is not a fundraiser, guests will be purchasing gifts (yes, they still will do that!) and then perhaps feel compelled to donate more $ to your cause..could be a bit uncomfortable. I DO THINK the motivation is ADMIRABLE though and since it is important to you why not have a lovely stand-up card in the center of table stating "In lieu of centerpieces money has been donated to the 6th Street Homeless shelter in you names"
Just a thought! it would certainly be a conversation starter at the table :0)

I agree-- awesome motivation, wrong venue. I like DSH`s idea about making a donation to a charity or organization in your guests` names. Going along with that idea, you could buy cheap boxed Christmas/holiday cards (depending on how far away your wedding is, you could hit the after-season sales this year) and type up a little blurb about the donation, make copies, and paste them inside the cards, and put one at each place setting.

By the way, it`s great to see that there are brides out there who actually think about other people besides themselves... Bravo, C, and best wishes for your wedding! :)