Discreet Poem For Invitations

Could somebody please tell me where you put your registry cards at? I know they DO NOT go in the wedding invite but I have generally seen them in shower invites? Is this acceptable?
If so why not put in there that money is prefered, I think asking for money is just like registering for gifts. When you register, you are asking for a specific gift, it is just up to the guest rather to buy it or not, where asking for money is also up to the guest to give it or not.

Just a thought

The correct place for registry cards has always been and will continue to be in the trash can. Gift information does not belong with your invitations. If your guests want to know where you are registered they will ask. If they don`t ask then they are obviously able to decide all by themselves what they would like to give you.

I bet your next question is going to be "if it`s rude to pass them out to my invited guests then why would the stores give out the registry cards?" The answer is that the stores don`t give a hoot about what`s rude and tacky, because it doesn`t look bad on them - it only looks bad on you. Their first and foremost goal is advertising and doing everything they can to promote their products off your registry. Don`t fall for it. That isn`t how registries were meant to be used.

I`d simply like to know why some brides feel they are entitled to a gift of any sort and thus they feel they can request specific items? No one owes the B&G anything and gifts shouldn`t even come to one`s mind while planning a wedding.

Kay, it is not always brides that feel this way (entitled). A lot of grooms do also, they can be just as greedy as brides, if not more. I`ve known of a lot of grooms who were that way.

I was just wondering, we aren`t going to register at all but since it seems to be such a heated discussion about them in wedding invites it just gave me a thought.
We have just about everything we need and the things I really want are far too expensive to expect a guest to buy.
As long as the people show up and have a good time, that is fine by me!
I have been to very few weddings and the ones I have been to were anything but traditional or close to it and all etiquette books say different things so who knows?

I agree with you 100% Missy - it`s not only brides who talk of gifts, etc. However, the vast majority of the posters on this board are brides thus my indicating to brides only. Also, the reality is most, not all but most, grooms don`t get overly involved in wedding planning.

This topic in general is really mindboggling for me. I simply can`t fathom the very idea of telling guests that they need to give a gift and that it must be cash.

Linda,
After reading many post on here, I did not realize you were an expert in EVERYTHING. You need to calm down lady and realize that none of the things these women are doing is a crime and YOU are not a judge. Why must you be so rude to everybody?
I have always found it appropriate to send them in a shower invite, for many years I have seen this done and I did not realize it was wrong because YOU say so, but I guess everything you say on here seems to be law.

"Linda,
After reading many post on here, I did not realize you were an expert in EVERYTHING."

I am! I`m glad you finally realized!
But the rudeness question baffles me. I don`t believe I`ve been rude to anyone. There does happen to be more than one Linda on this line. Perhaps one of them have been posting rude things.

I am smarter than you people. Do you think I care if you think I`m rude or judgemental? Nope. I don`t care what any of you low-class-losers think of me.

So sorry.....there is NO discreet poem, jingle, song or rap to ask for money!

Somehow, I don`t think Linda is really a bride or is getting married. I think she is a bitter woman who hates other women who are getting married.

Hahaha. Quite funny. You see, there are other people signing their name as Linda. I am Linda and I know quite a bit about wedding etiquette etc. While I do post what I know and my opinions, I`m not the "Linda" posting rude messages.

Sorry to disappoint but I am already married. I simply think most of you soon-to-be brides are pathetic.

Linda if we are so pathetic, then why do you bother coming here in the first place? It seems you never want to offer constructive advice, you only want to criticize and make sarcastic comments.

I feel sorry for the idiot that married her! i bet he works more than he needs to just so he doesn`t have to go home!

Come on people, I`m not sure how many times I have to explain it. There is another Linda posting rude stuff, not me. In this thread alone everytime I post a message the "other" Linda posts something rude right below me. Just ignore it.

Or, maybe you just have a split personality and aren`t aware of it....