2ND WEDDING
My brother who we thought was getting married in july for the first time, has just informed us that he and his girl actually got married last November by a J.P. She just found out that she is a few weeks pregnant as well( thus the reason their secret was revealed).They still want to have a big wedding in July, and want to call it just that.Some of their family have a problem calling it a wedding, since they are already married.What would be thre proper thing to do?
Posted by Deb; updated 04/20/04
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Linda, do you think its bizarre and deceptive for a woman to wear a white gown at her wedding if she is no longer a virgin??? Given your previous post, that is likely what you and others on here believe. (Anyways, the white gown tradition has nothing to do with virginity. It was a tradition that was started by Queen Victoria, when she wore a white gown at her wedding in the 19th century). If you feel that a couple should not have a wedding because they have been living together, had secret nuptials already, they`ve had a child together, or they are no longer virgins, well then you are entitled to your beliefs, and don`t attend their wedding if you feel they are such horrible people. But nobody goes to the altar "perfect", just bear that in mind.
Posted by Chance; updated 04/20/04
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Chance, I don`t know what you`re talking about. I never said anything about the color of the dress, living together, having children or being virgins. If people want to get married, by all means they should have any type of wedding they choose. I`m not opposed. However, in all of those scenarios the people having weddings are actually going to be wed. That`s what "weddings" are - events in which people WED. Imagine that! For those who are already wedlocked, well then they wouldn`t be getting wed. They`re already wed.
Posted by Linda; updated 04/21/04
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Whether or not to call it a wedding is completely up to the bride and groom themselves.Also,nowadays,the brides in white dresses aren`t virgins,so why worry? If she wants to wear white, let her.
Posted by Katie; updated 04/21/04
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I agree. Besides, nobody questions the groom`s virginity or whether he should be wearing a nice tuxedo, or whatever. If the bride wants to wear a beautiful long white gown, she can. Doesn`t matter how old she is or how many times she has been married. Somebody said it looked foolish for brides to wear a white gown if they`d been married before or were doing a vow renewal of some sort. Who cares what they wear? Why is it important? People can wear what they want.
Posted by Chance; updated 04/21/04
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"Whether or not to call it a wedding is completely up to the bride and groom themselves."
I disagree. I think whether or not to call it a wedding depends on the couple`s marital status.
And for heavens sake, where did all this white dress stuff come from anyway? I never said a woman shouldn`t wear a white dress.
Posted by Linda; updated 04/21/04
