Insults

The way I see it, people ARE giving their opinions. But others don`t like those opinions, so they interpret them as insults. I also see people asking for opinions, then getting mad when they don`t like what they hear. This is immature. Everybody here is from all different walks of life, and we all have different viewpoints. If you don`t like someone`s opinion, well, you asked for it, didn`t you?? Don`t post asking for opinions if you just want people to agree with whatever you say. They might not necessarily agree.

The problem is some people`s `opinions` are completely inappropriate (ie, asking for money, including registry information, etc) by society`s standards.

Everything depends on cultures, and traditions.
They are not completely wrong by society`s standards.
And not everyone posts their opinions, they post rude, negative responses that are not needed. Things may be rude and inappropriate to some, but to others it`s not. Who came up with etiquette and societies standards. Obviously somebody did, and somebody has changed things. And many changes are becoming a trend now. Whether people want to accept it or not, thats fine. But their is no law saying how a wedding should be and shouldn`t be. It`s just something that was started many years ago and times are changing and so is the way weddings are done.

I completely agree with tired. Most of us have weddings coming up,and it`s a hectic time in our lives,and will be up to the wedding day.And my opinion is that if we are going to complain about something,we need to use discretion. Remember that we may not like the person,but he or she is a human being,and deserves to be treated like one.

Well there are some on here who say that two people who get married privately, cannot have a public ceremony later on. Well there are perfectly valid reasons for having a public ceremony to pronounce to your friends and relatives that you are legally married, even if you had a private ceremony before. Weddings mean different things to different people. They are different in other countries too!! You don`t have to be an 18 year old blushing virgin to have the big wedding and wear a white gown. But unfortunately some people still think that way.

In response to Lisa`s statement, who are you to judge what other`s ave decided to do on THEIR wedding day? I came to this board looking for some tips on asking for a money tree donation, me and my fiance have lived together for 4 years. We don`t need a toaster, we don`t need anyhting like that. I have come to the decision that I am not asking for anything because of the great tips I have read. If people want to give a gift, we will accept happily and if we don`t need it, we will donate it to someone who does. Talk about breaking etiquette rules.

Brandy you can have a money tree if you want. You don`t need anyone`s approval to do the money tree.

Thanks Chance. Being that family and very few close friends will be joining us, I think they all kinda know what we need and don`t need. I will definatly appreciate any and everything we receive. I was kinda hoping of more money gifts as we had planned on haivng a "honeymoon" based on that. We have bought our house and have everything we could possibly want. And when I say honeymoon, I am speaking of a few quiet days together along with my 9 year old daughter, maybe at a theme park or something.

My wedding isn`t going to be traitional at all. My dad is no longer living so he isn`t here to alk me down the aisle. My 9 year old is going to have the honors of that. She is so delighted to be such a big part of this. We have even cosidered all 3 (me, her and him) walking together down the aisle. I am sure I will make my final decision before the big day.

On a side note, I qm glad I found this place. I participate on another message board, have been a member for close to 4 years now and I love it.

Congratualtions to all the brides out there!