Marrying Military

Hi :) My fiance was deployed a few weeks shy of 6 months ago. A few weeks into his deployment he asked me to marry him and when we began to discuss a date, we realized it would be best if it were done during his midtour (30 days). I`ve been planning this wedding by myself and I won`t lie to you, it hurts sometimes not to have him here, but the best thing you can do is keep him as involved as possible. I have a new found respect for all those married to military. Ask for his input on everything and I`ve even gone so far as to give his email address to vendors that way he can be "in the loop". Whenever the vendors email me, he gets the email too. It may sound like a small gesture, but these small gestures add up. But at the same time, you need to make sure your fiance is aware that planning a wedding is a very demanding "job" (for the lack of better words) and that you will need his undying support in times which you find yourself frustrated. It honestly feels like you`re putting on a broadway production. Just keep your head up and never lose sight of why you`re going through this in the first place. If people offer to help you, utilize them. You`ll be happy you did! Good luck to you!

Sorry, there`s also a few more things I failed to mention ... When you hire people for your reception, ask if you may include a military clause into your contract basically stating that if by some chance his orders change, you will be able to change the date free of charge as long as you promise to use them. My fiance has to go back overseas after the wedding, but we situated it to where we are getting married at the beginning of his leave that way we have a few weeks before he has to go back out. Looking at the big picture, you`ll be marrying the man you love and a few months apart after the wedding is not ideal, but you`ll have the rest of your lives together to look forward to. That, or I would suggest just moving the date to a time in which you`ll know for sure he`ll be home. That`s almost an oxymoron in the military, though. I added a military clause to all of my contracts, all the vendors had no problem doing so. :) Just ask, it can`t hurt. Okay, I`m done now. :)

I am not sure what state you are in, but I live in Ohio and am planning on leaving for the military this summer for basic training. While talking to the vendors I ask what their cancelation policy is and a few of tehm have told me that by law if I am delivered orders of any kind and cannot abide by the agreed date,t han they have to refund my money or change my date for free. Check with your laws and have it written in your contract that if s situation should arise you will be able to get out of your contract without a penalty.
Hope this helps as well