Help I Can`t Afford A Wedding!
Ok i totally need help finding a nice poitle way to tell my geusts that theey need to pay for there own food and bevrage for my wedding. Like my mom is doing my fowlers and my good friend is being the photogripher he`s like a totally awesome photogripher and i`m sure he should be shotting for a real photogripher if one would hire him but sense he really dont got no true expreience then he cant go into bussines on his own. So i need someone to tell me how to word my invites witch im sending out over my email by the end of this week to tell eveyone to bring some money to cover the costss of the food. Were serving a real good meal so peple will get there monies worth and all and maybe i should just tell them to not bring me a gift and everything and then they will be happy paying for there food.
What way can i remind them all to bring monie for there food and beer? is it ok to have a cash register or monie box at the door to hold the monie? my friend says that mite be tackie and all but i don`t want no cash all over the place.
Posted by Tracey; updated 04/16/04
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Please don`t take this the wrong way, but guests really shouldn`t have to pay for anything at a wedding. If you can`t afford a meal, just do a punch and cake reception with some fruit/veggie trays and maybe some small appetizers like artichoke dip/bread. Or, another option (and this might not work if you`re inviting a ton of people) is what some friends of mine did, they were getting ready to move out of the country and didn`t want a lot of gifts they couldn`t take with them, and they also didn`t want to spend a lot of money on the wedding since they had to save $$$ for their travels, so they decided to have a big potluck for the reception. On the invitations, they *politely* asked guests to bring a dish to share instead of a gift. I know it sounds weird but it worked out really well and everyone got to sample all kinds of foods.
Posted by Heidi; updated 04/16/04
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I agree with heidi. Unless this is something usually done with ur family and friends, don`t embarrass ur self and ask for money. Just don`t register, and spread the word through close family and friends that u would rather have cash instead of a gift. Most likely whatever gift present they bring u, it will be more than what they would have paid for the dinner. Don`t write on ur invites that u want money for gifts, just sort of spread the word through family and friends.....
Posted by someone; updated 04/18/04
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First you should use spell check before sending out an email like that. If you can`t afford to host your guests then you should have a pot luck reception, or do what Heidi said and have cake and punch and that`s it!!!
Posted by Clarice; updated 04/18/04
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I think you should never ask for money it is quite rude. Have the guests bring food Hidi is on the right track and don`t wrtie your own invations people won`t know how to read them have a friend do this or go to the internet and look up invations and print out on you like and take to a copier and copy it. You spell bad!
You can also go to the $1.00 store for things cheap for the wedding yard sales also work.
God`s blessings on your Wedding
Posted by GQ; updated 04/18/04
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Tracy, if you can`t afford the wedding, don`t have it. Go to the local justice of the peace and get married. This is what many people have to do. A wedding is a luxury, it is not an entitlement.
Posted by Chance; updated 04/19/04
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My wedding is on a small budget. Instead of having a reception we are doing a dessert. Right after the ceremony we are going to have desserts and coffee, and everyone can mingle and hang out for about thrity minutes. This gives us an opportunity to thank everyone so much for coming, and saves us a bundle. And for a wedding cake, we are just going to have one at the reheresal dinner. It is a casual cook out rehersal dinner, and we are inviting about thrity people. If you want to have a reception, that is great. Just go with punch and cake. Don`t ask your guests to pay for their meals, because they propbaly just won`t come. I wish you all the luck on your wedding. It is possible to have the wedding of your dreams on a budget. GOOD LUCK!
Posted by Emilee; updated 04/29/04
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I suggest instead of having a wedding you go back to school and learn how to spell. Not only do you sound ignorant, but your idea of telling your "guests" they have to pay for a meal is rude and ignorant in itself. If you can`t afford to have a wedding, don`t have one.
Posted by Sarah; updated 04/29/04
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I would be offended if someone invited me to their wedding and asked me to pay for my meal. When I read the card and find the couple did not register anywher, I instantly know a monetary gift is appropriate, people don`t need to be told. If you can`t afford to pay for everyone`s meal, don`t invite so many people. You should offer your guests something. I like the dessert idea or you could have appetizers. If you can`t afford that, then have a private ceramony.
Posted by najet; updated 04/29/04
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Is this person for real?? This message looks like someone who has nothing better to do than play on a message board. A cash reg. At a wedding??!! PUHLEEZ! From the very beginning this post screams fraud.
Posted by Michele; updated 04/30/04
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Who in the world plans a wedding then asks people to PAY for anything to come.IF YOU CAN`T AFFORD TO GET MARRIED, AND HAVE A WEDDING YOU CAN AFFORD,GO TO A JUSTICE OF THE PEACE. A LOT OF ``LITTLE GIRLS`` NEED TO GROWUP!IF YOUR OLD ENOUGH TO GET MARRIED,THEN YOUR OLD ENOUGH TO STOP EXPECTING HANDOUTS LIKE A TEENAGER DOES.GROWUP!
Posted by deja; updated 05/01/04
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Just a thought....have the cake and punch idea....and why don`t you try cupcakes. They are fast, easy and you can totally do them yourself. If you would like to see another picture of a cupcake wedding besides good old Martha, email cpawlak@sbcglobal.net for a new innovative idea in cupcake design. Also, the 99cent only stores has a whole wedding theme going in white, and I think you could find just what you are looking for! Remember, it is all about you and the groom....don`t worry about all the people you won`t remember being there in 20 years!
Posted by Cece; updated 05/03/04
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I have to say, I agree. Cake & punch is fine for a reception. That`s all you need, really.
Posted by Amanda; updated 05/04/04
