Does Your Man Act This Way?
He does not talk about the wedding like I do and when I mention it he brushes it off. Of course, I bring up the fact of the payments that are due and when. But when I mention choosing his groomsmen he says that we have plenty of time and that he`ll choose later. We have 6 mths till the date. Maybe I am having jitters but I afraid hes changing his mind. Can I get some input on how everyones else`s act, please.
Posted by sabrina; updated 04/13/04
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No your not alone......i had to keep after mine. He kept saying the same thing. I even had to set up everything for the tuxes and make him go...lolol. It is hard for him though, he works nights so he sleeps during the day. But i just keep after him and make him do it eventually when time started running out. Guess a lot of guys just don`t care how things go, they like the bride to have it the way she wants it. Well mine anyawy is that way. Your not alone.... :o)
Mel
Posted by mel; updated 04/13/04
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No, my FH has been wonderful. You guy may be having cold feet, but you need to sit him down and talk to him. I know you say that he brushes it off, but you need to take a stand! Be strong and tell him how you feel. 6 months is not a long time. By the time my wedding day is here we will be engaged for 6 months total, and it is a lot of work to do in just 6 months! He really needs to realize that a wedding doesn`t "Just Happen". It takes planning and organizing. I wish you all the best.
Posted by CLL; updated 04/13/04
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The best thing to do is sit him down and find out if he has cold feet or thinks he can pull this together at the last minute.Not everyone he will ask to serve will be able to.We had one guy after saying he`d serve,who couldn`t afford it,therefore backing out 2 months before the wedding,then another one a week before call and say he may not be able to get off the boat.which left me trying to figure out if i`d get the first guy or last to walk 2 girls. We eventually had 5 on each side,but last minute things can fall apart.therefore,6 months its the perfect time to have him pick his guys.hope this helps.
Posted by deja; updated 04/13/04
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Men don`t really like wedding planning. Or weddings. (Oh, but they do like bachelor parties and they will put a lot of effort into planning that)
Posted by Missy; updated 04/13/04
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Mine is the same way he is cool with whatever i want to do but for the most part getting him to pick out tuxes is like pulling eye teeth. Most of the time he is taking the whatever-you-want-hunny-stance
Posted by sharon; updated 04/13/04
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Thank you all for your reply`s. I spoke to him earlier and he said I guess you need to hear how happy I am about the wedding as much as I tell you how pretty or how your my princess.Thanks so much I can breathe again, good to know he is just acting like a "man".God Bless and thanks --more reply are cool too.
Posted by sabrina; updated 04/13/04
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My man is like that too. He `knows" it all already and says not to worry about it. He also says we are not having a wedding but going to the courthouse. I do not think so. It is my money I will be spending and if I want all 115 of my family members there and all of our friends than I will.
We are just waiting to make sure all of our party (bride included) is home from Iraq before we get married. One member just got home last Saturday, one is still there and there is a high chance of me going right after basic. Not to mention I voluntereed.
But anyhow, he doesn`t talk about it either, thinks it is a waste of money and time! Plus he hates all the "traditional" stuff, he just wants to kick it with our friends. A five hour reception isn`t enough?
Posted by Brandy; updated 04/13/04
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Guess what, we talked more andhe said he`s not the type of guy to get excited about something 6mths away and when it gets closer he promises to get real excited. He even said he would go with me to the bridal show this weekend. But i said you dont have to that, but we are going to register sunday and shop for wedding bands.!! Keep in mind everything is booked ready to go -i have been planning for 10 mths now. Just thought I`d brag on him. Again thanks ladies for letting me know I am not alone.!
Posted by sabrina; updated 04/14/04
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Don`t worry they all do it!! My wedding is in 4 weeks and I still have a lot of planning to do. When I mention things to my Fiance he brushes it off too. It`s just that girls and guys are differnt in how we hadle things. As far as our weddings goes we want everything to be perfect. But a lot of guys see it as the day we make a big fuss over a piece of paper!!!!!
Posted by Lea; updated 04/16/04
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My man acted that way, he had been married before, and this was his second wedding. So he wasn`t really into all the formalities of it. He did not host a rehearsal dinner, my family was wondering why, and he wanted to have the wedding as soon as possible, my feeling is he wanted to just get it over with. He didn`t offer much financial help with the wedding expenses, either. I felt cheated because it was his second wedding, however, it was my FIRST wedding and he should have been more considerate.
Posted by Missy; updated 04/19/04
