Asian Themed Wedding Help!!!
Me and my fiance are from North America (Im from Vancouver and he`s from Chicago), but we have decided to do an asian themed wedding. We met on an airplane on our way to Singapore, so we thought it was appropriate! Im having a hard time finding ideas, we don`t want a completely asian wedding, but just a few things. My bridesmaids are wearing dark red cheongsam dresses, and were serving asian food. But I need help with some other ideas!!!!!!!
I am also having SERIOUS problems with my father!
I am an only child and have always been rather spoiled by him, and he`s not happy about the wedding. He doesnt like Aiden (my fiance), I think this is mainly because I will be moving away, but he is causing some pretty serious tension between our families. But worst of all he insisted on paying for 1/2 the wedding, and I am regreting letting him, because he now has a say in things. He calls up vendors to change things, and has been making some extremely rude comments to our caterers and my seamstress (they are Asian) about their culture, looks and just about everything else. My seamstress called me in tears telling me she wouldnt be making my dresses if my father ever contacted her again. We have been friends for a long time, so he is damaging more than just our wedding. I have no idea how to handle this... HELP PLEASE!
(sorry for being so long)
~Evie~
Posted by Evie; updated 04/11/04
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I think that is a great theme for the two of you! I saw a website that had dessert `sushi`, they were made of chocolate and were adorable, I cant remember the site but i found it on google. For centerpieces you could use a bosnai tree in the middle of each table in a fancy pot. Best of luck, especially with your dad. Have you tried just sitting him down and talking to him?
Posted by Lynda; updated 04/12/04
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Invitations by Dawn has some really cute stuff in their current catalog
Posted by Brandy; updated 04/12/04
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I did an Asian-inspired invitation. I made them myself ($75 for 30 invitations) and they are gorgeous. Got all of my supplies from the Paper Source . THey have a dozen stores across the country but also do mail order. They have gorgeous handmade japanese and chinese paper and instructions on how to assemble the whole thing. Please check it out. Fairly easy, very inexpensive and really beautiful and unique.
I`m sorry about your father troubles. It`s hard to understand why some poeple can`t just keep their lips sealed and at least try to PRETEND they are happy. If you cannot sit him down and make him realized what he`s doing to you, you might consider paying all expenses yourself and asking him not to attend the wedding. It`s a terrible position to be in and I really feel for you, but if your father cannot accept Aiden then I think your first priority is your husband. I`m really sorry. I wish you the best.
Posted by Amy Grace; updated 04/12/04
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What about small bamboo plants for table centerpieces.
Posted by Missy; updated 04/12/04
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Evie, I find that when people want to pay for a wedding, they usually want to control everything about the wedding. They do it as a control thing. Its not right. If they want to pay for half of the wedding, or whatever, they should do it because they love you, not because they want to be a control freak.
Posted by Missy; updated 04/13/04
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Something that I am doing for my wedding reception is making origami paper cranes. They are really easy to make and you can get the paper for pretty cheap at a craft store or even cheaper off ebay. They take about 3-5 minutes to make and are beautiful! They also have symboic meaning,such as international peace and mating for life, so you could have explanations printed for the cranes. ( you can just type in "origami paper crane" in a search engine to got explanations and instructions. This is how I learned)
About your father, I would sit him down and ask him why he is behaving this way, not just with your fiancee, but with the other people (seamstress, etc). Explain to him how this is affecting everyone, including yourself, and just tell him that if he is going to continue to act like this (for opposing the wedding) then maybe he shouldn`t come. Let him know that you are getting married with or without him. I know it is hard to stand up to you parents like that (I went through a similar experience recently), but if you don`t do it now, it will just get worse as the years go by. Also, if it is too scary to talk to him in person, a letter will do the trick.
Good luck! I hope everything works out.
Posted by Beth; updated 04/17/04
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I`m also having an asian inspired wedding this july in chicago. I`m using orchids for the flowers, i wanted to us paper lanterns, but couldn`t afford the cost of having someone hang them. We are having our wedding at a museum and would have to pay a "specialist" to hang them. Also, have you seen the fortune cookie favors? i too am making my invitations with kits from the paper source with japanese papers. Also, if you havn`t found a dress yet check out watters and watters style 2020. That is the dress i chose. It has four of those asian buttons on the back. Best of luck
Posted by caryn; updated 04/20/04
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Thanks so much to everyone for their advice, I finally sat my dad down, gave him a check for everything he paid for and told him that if there were anymore comments or phone calls or anything else along those lines he would no longer be invited.
Thanks for the ideas too, I found some perfect paper at paper source for my invites, and I love the dress that Caryn posted. Thanks again!
~Evie~
Posted by Evie; updated 04/21/04
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Evie, I think you handled it the right way.
Posted by Missy; updated 04/21/04
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Hi Evie,
I think that an asian themed wedding would be perfect for you ,and im glad you cleared things up with you father. I think another great idea for party favors would be oriental pocket fans. You can find them for cheap on ebay, just type in wedding fans. Congratulations and good luck !
Posted by Evelyn; updated 04/27/04
