Cash As Wedding Gift

To those attackers,
I have been reading through out this board looking for advice and suggestions. Whenever I see your name(s) under a post I cringe. This is a wedding board. It is supposed to be a place where people can talk with one another like respectful adults. You have put a bad taste in my mouth. What are you~~the wedding police? People have other opinions and traditions. If someone wants to put a wishing well or gift registry card in their invitation then so be it. What the heck are you going to do about it? Let other people discuss this topic. Your opinion is well heard I`m sure. Go to a different part of the board or even a different board if you don`t like what we are talking about here. These are brides and grooms asking opinions....I`m sure they don`t want to see your temper tantrums.
Sincerely

Suggestions for those asking:

"Wishing Well to be provided at Reception"

If people are going to ask for information, then I`m within my right to give them information. As for this question in particular, the original poster didn`t ask for opinions or ideas. She asked specifically for "the appropriate way". There isn`t any appropriate way. And that`s the correct answer.

As your opinion is....it is not the only way.

Dear BrideinJune,

There should be no reason for this post. The topic of "requesting money" has been beaten over like a dead horse. The answer has always been a resounding "BAD IDEA".

Please read the other threads for "Why".

BrideinJune,
Perhaps you misunderstood. I wasn`t giving my opinion.

I think Linda is right. There is no correct way to ask for cash. From anyone. Ever. And no, I`m not throwing a "temper tantrum". Just stating the truth.

I don`t like the statement that asking for money is "never" appropriate. Our company is moving us from New York to San Francisco the same week as our wedding. The stress of attempting to transport fragile gifts 3000 miles on top of all the worries we have with finding a place, moving our belongings and, oh yeah, planning a wedding without the support of one set of parents is quite frankly too much to deal with. We have asked our families to spread the word that we are trying to travel light and hope that those who are close to us will appreciate the situation we are in. Before making statements about something "never" being appropriate, take a moment and think that perhaps there could be extenuating circumstances.

April..... Spreading the word is one thing, putting it in your invitation is another thing. Spreading the word is fine.... You just tell your wedding party and your parents and then when (or if) guests decide they need suggestions they will ask one of these people and they can be gently informed of your situation. But demanding money in your invitations is just plain awful!!!!

You guys need to duke it out.

I found this page by doing a search for "cash as wedding gift." I`d appreciate it if anyone can help me. I want to give cash to my friend as a wedding gift along with a few other friends, because as impersonal as it may be, it is the most helpful gesture, we figured. We will all pitch in and somehow make out one combined check. But everyone may want to put different amount in, so I wanted to know if there is a proper way to make out one check, but indicating who put how much in? I was wondering if there are any greeting/gift cards that standardized that sort of thing...

Why is it important who put in which amount? If its important, then don`t combine it in one check.

I agree with Amanda. If you are pooling your money then you write one check and leave it at that. If you want the couple to know exactly how much each person contributed then each person should write their own check to give as their own gift.