Finding A Church

You open the phone book and look under "Churches".

That`s not exactly what i meant. I was wondering how you approach a church that you are not a member of to see about having your ceremony there. I`m lutheran he`s chatholic.

It is not that hard. It depends on if you want to have a Catholic service or not. If you are doing a non-demnominational service, it should be pretty easy. Find an area that you would like to have your wedding (close to reception site) and make a call. Community Churches are probably the best way to go. They may not allow you to bring in your own minister and you will have to use theirs. That may eliminate a step for you.

If you are set on a Catholic wedding, there are certain steps you will have to go through. Your parish will be able to help you with that.

Have Fun!!

Perhaps you could have been a bit more descriptive in the first place so that your post didn`t sound so odd.

Melissa, most church rentals are handled by the church administrator. Call the church, ask to speak with the administrator who will give tell you the rates and availability. Sundays are almost never available. Also ask about restrictions (most churches no longer allow rice to be thrown, some only allow live music in the sanctuary).

I found a church that I absolutely love and want to get married in. The problem is that the minister only likes to marry members of the church. I would feel bad becoming a member just to use the church. What do you think?

Some church can charge quite a bit of money to rent their building. It could be anywhere from $100 to $1500 or more. I know of a large Baptist church in my area that charges $1200, even if you are a member, to have your wedding there.

I agree with just joining to get married there is an akward situation. I am going thru the same thing myself. I unfortunetly don`t have any advice.. I did call up a church in my area and made an appointment with the reverend to discuss our options. I guess that is all you can do.

I sincerely don`t mean this in a rude, judgemental, or mean way...I`m simply curious. Is there a particular reason that you want to get married in a church if you`re not a regular church-goer thus already being a member of a church. To an outsider, it would appear that you perhaps don`t always go to church and that is why you aren`t a member at any .... Thus the problem of finding a church.

So, have you considered other avenues for getting married?

I am not offended in any way. I haven`t been going to MY church becasue I work on Sundays and they do not have services on any other day. Also, my fiance is catholic and I am Lutheran, however he wants a catholic wedding and I am trying to let him feel like he is part of the wedding planning. We probably will end up at my church which is wonderful to me since I know everyone there. I still keep in contact with many of the members of my church where I work.

Mary that was very rude, open the phone book and look under wedding.. Gee, wonder why you have to post on here got no one else to take hostilities out on.
Mellissa, i`m trying to find a nice church for my sister. And i was just wondering the same thing that`s how i found this site. Good luck on ur search.

I found that a lot of churches did have rules, and restrictions that I wasn`t interested in following to get married. Like, not allowing rice or anything to be thrown, not allowing musical instruments in their building, charging too much money, etc. Etc. We just decided to not get married in a church.