Wedding Shower Etiquette

My mother and MOH live 4 hours away where I grew up. They are throwing me a wedding shower in a few weeks. My new mother-in-law lives 5 minutes from us (and 4 hours from my mother where the wedding shower will be). She said she couldn’t go to my shower, which I understand.

I asked her if I should invite my fiance`s family to the shower because I don’t want anyone to feel left out, but I don’t really expect them to drive that far and I don’t want them to feel obligated to send a gift. My mother-in-law told me not to invite my fiance`s family and not to tell them about the shower so they won`t feel left out. She’s is not planning a second shower for me.

I thought that usually when the families live this far apart; the bride would have two showers. When my brother got married, his fiancés family lived 3 hours from us so we threw her a shower at my mom’s so she could meet all the women in our family and feel welcome. I like my mother-in-law and I don`t want to be mad at her, but I feel really hurt. I actually get along very well with my fiance`s family. I do realize that she`s not under any obligation to throw me a shower here (especially since family is not really supposed to throw wedding shower`s), but it would be an awfully nice gesture.

Should I go ahead and have my MOH invite my fiance`s family, even though I don`t expect them to go and my MIL said not too? If I don’t invite them, some of them will eventually find out about the shower and may feel hurt.