Guest Question

My ex-boyfriend and his fiancee are getting married in June. I found out last week that my husband and I will be invited to their out of town wedding, two states away.

He and I are friendly but have not seen each other in over five years. The man was not invited to our special day and my husband has not met him.

Would it be appropriate to decline the wedding invitation and send a small gift? The weekend travel and overnight stay is just out of our budget.

I have never met his fiancee but we have spoke on the phone a few times. Am I obligated to also attend the bridal shower?

We want to do the right thing since the couple lives only twenty minutes away and we are reconnecting as friends.