Traci.....thank You So Very Much For The Advi

I really appreciate your kind words and the words from the other posters.

Traci out of all the advise I`ve gotten yours seems to be very sound and sincere. I`m going to print this out and go over it at home use some of your excersises.

Thanks again.

FYI - I have spoken with her but I know in my heart what I say to her she takes with a grain of salt because her son still depends on her a lot . She may give me my space but shw still calls him all day long!!!!!!!! Which I can`t control but I hear him on the phone discussing our financial situation with her, our future home equity loan, where (bank) we are going to get it, how we are going to use it and all the plans we have for the future. I just feel like we have no secrets and no privacy cause MIL knows everything!!!!!