Help!! The Only Gifts That We Need Is Cash

CLL how old are you anyways? You sound like my great grandmother. Take a Chill pill!! I am quite sure I will enjoy my wedding. Hope you enjoy yours.

I am 28. I guess your great grandmother had class too then?

I think its childish to demand money from one`s wedding guests. Or to think that you are entitled to money simply because you are getting married. Begging for money like a street panhandler! how shameful can you get.

First of all there should be no mention of gift giving or registry on your invites. Second of all you can not tell people that you want cash. Please remember this is a wedding not a fund raiser.

My wedding. My choice. Get over it!

If I received a wedding invitation with any kind of request for money, I would just laugh and throw it in the trash.

I completely agree w/ Chris.

"Take a chill pill?" what is this 1992? Diane, you are not only tacky, rude, greedy, and inappropriate but you`re also making yourself look like a fool.

I can`t believe people are asking for cash/money. That really takes all the romance out of the day. It loses its true meaning.

Hi

I would first like to say Congrads!

I think people should first think about what they want to say before they say it.
I think the posts I have read are to personal and very rude and upsetting. Most of you were and are brides to be and this website is used for helping one another not attacking eachother.
It is your rightful opinion to disagree with them asking their guest for money but why say it in such a way that hurts another one feelings about their choices and their life. Soeone mentioned grow up, I think these post I have read need to grow up and give tactful advice without insult as mature adults do.
Sometimes people forget that their human and are dealing with other humanbeings and it causes them to lose their human regard for others feelings, concerns and needs.

My suggestion is that you make mention in a simple way that you all have what you need when it comes to items but would like to go on a honeymoon or getaway or do something special (write it in your invitations). If this is what you need it for (or whatever else you need it for).
Or have a money tree displayed where girfts go that maybe an even a better idea therefor you don`t have to ask it is plain to see. And I might add that many of people on their wedding day requested money!

God Bless and don`t be discourage by ignorence

We all needed help one time or another!

HI

Sorry for my typo`s I was very upset when I saw how you were attacked and my brain was going faster than my typing but I think the point has been met.

Natalya,
Congrats!! I too am having a small wedding, 35 guests. Like you my f/h and I have lived together for years and it would be great if we would only get money for wedding gifts. I do not plan to put it on our invites. I simply did not register and hope that word of mouth will get this wish accross. However I will be thankful for what ever we do get. I am only having the wedding to allow the family to share in our special day.

That said I will not attack you in any way. You have to do what is right for you and what you feel. I only hope that you have a lovely wedding whatever you choose to do.
Good Luck

Thanks guys.

Sometimes people get jealous about money gifts. We have received a sum of money as a wedding gift, and unfortunately, some friends and family members found out about it, and got jealous and upset. We did not even ask for any money in the first place - we have registered at a couple of stores, but not asked for cash from anyone. I wonder why other people think the money gift is any of their business..

I agree. My cousin got married last year and in her invitations she mentioned that she was registered (for those people who preferred to get a gift), but that monetary gifts would be preferred. She ended up receiving only 5 gifts and 3 of the items were different brands of the same thing, she received mostly monetary gifts. A lot of people told her that they thought monetary gifts were much simplier gifts to give at weddings.

I think the best thing to do would be not to register anywhere. And like other suggested, you can certainly let the word get around. With only 30 guests, you and your fiance most likely speak with your guests on a regular basis. . . Just cautiously and discreetly let your preference be known. Most likely, people will be thankful that you let them know ahead of time. . . It will save them a lot of trouble!

I think that you should just not register. I was invited to a wedding and the invitation stated that the bride and groom would prefer a monetary gift. I barely knew the person as it was and it made me feel as if I was only being invited for my money and not for any other reason. I think that since you are having a small wedding you can politely spread by word of mouth your preference. Some people feel that registries are rude. So no matter what you can`t win. Just do what you think is right in the end since it is your wedding :)

My fiance and I moved in together after we got engaged. We, too, have everything we need. However, I believe that giftgiving (whether monetary or in-kind) is a time-honored tradition that friends and family will continue to uphold. That being said, my fiance and I are not planning to register for our December wedding. Instead, we`ll be setting up a blocked account, so that those WHO WANT TO GIVE have a way in which to do so. We`ll mention in our invitations that should invitees want to give a gift, that monetary gifts are preferred. Afterall, your friends and family want to give you something you want... That`s how registries came about in the first place. Good luck!

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I too am in the same situation. My fiance and I have been living together for the past two years and have everything necessary. Instead of printing anything about monetary gifts on the invitations, (because it does seem a little rude) we decided to register for things we want and not necessarily need. This being so most the things were pretty expensive (such as a carpet steam cleaner, air purifyer, etc.). So, we assume that guests will either pitch in for such gifts together or give a monetary gift. Let them decide and you never know you may get that new washing machine or dish washer you`ve been wanting.

Natayla,
I just want to tell you not to take what some of these people are saying to personally, even though that is hard. I don`t think it is rude or tacky to put on a invitation where you are registerd or that you would like money as a gift. That is something that is growing more and more commom now days. I don`t think you should worry about what people will think or say. If you deliver your message in a polite manner I think it would be fine. People need to realize that, times are changing and more and more people are getting married that have already started their life together. And personally I would rather give money to someone then to give then something they don`t need. No your wedding is not a chance to have a fund raiser but, it is also a tradition to give the bride and groom something to help them out as they beging their journey together. And if you guys need money and not towels I don`t see what the difference is, it is still spending money. Personally I think alot of the people who wrote to you and acted out of childish ignorance need to keep their mouths shut. Have a happy and wonderful wedding day!!