Why Get Married?

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Because I love him.
Because he loves me.
Because i cant stand the thought of possibly not having him as an active part of my life.
Because it`s the right time for us.
Because we both decided that we wanted that level of committment and structure in our lives together already.
Because we`re not getting any younger and our feelings for eachother have not changed for many years.
Because we are both going to be finishing school and starting our professional lives soon and are making a deliberate effort to do that together rather than seperately.
But Mostly.... Because I love him.... And he loves me... And i don`t think that any of the other points are as important as that.
Just curious why you are asking.
Cheers

I was only asking to see what others were thinking. The reason I am getting married is because we love each other, we can`t stand the thought of not having eash other in our lives, we are meant for each other, we are ready for teh committment, we want to be able to start forming security for our future children(which we plan on waiting a while for) and we want to make sure that everyone knows how much we love each other. Thanks for reminding me i didn`t share my reasons

You marry that special someone that you cannot live without, not the one you can live with!

My FH and I have all of that too plus two kids and the only reason we are legally getting married is so neither one of us is screwed if anything happens to the other. I am about to leave for the military and if anything happens to me , he is legally not entitled to a penny. I have been with him for almost 9 yrs and to me he is my "husband" and he deserves what he is entitled to.
When we retire, if anything happened to one of us the other couldn`t claim their social security and all of that.
In our hearts and souls we are already married, we are just going to make it legal!

"For better...or for worse....or in Brandy`s case - for money." She and her FH had children out of wedlock and now I bet they are going to get married in a church so that no one `gets screwed out of money` as she so eloquently put it if something happens to her.

You`re a real class act Brandy!

Meredith,
Couldnt have said it better myself.....

For my boyfriend you can ask him because I don`t know... We have been living together for almos 4 years, and I went on vacations, and he asked me to marry him, because I wasn`t aloud to go on vacations by my self anymore... Hahahaha... So for me, at this moment is all the wedding day thing... Then what comes after that... I believe for us, is going to be the same, maybe just more commitment, and more papers if we ever decide to split, but I really hope that day never come, but that was my wish since the firts week we date... Besides that... Our home has been the same since a long time ago... And we have a dog that will be our dog for ever, and everything in both names since the first day... So I don`t know... And by the way I wasn`t thinking on going on vacations by my self everagain anyways because I didn`t had fun... But I didn`t say anithing about it... Hey I`m girl I wanted that dress for ever.... So that is why I`m getting married... Why I`m with him... Because he makes me laugh all the time, he will take the food out of his mouth for me or Simon (our dog), he is a really god son, so I believe that he will make a grate husban, and when he wanted to go to a strip club, he asked me to go with him... So I know I can trust him... Hahahaha... And I`M CRAZY IN LOVE... Like the first day and I feel is still growing... Ok that is why... Bye Renata

No, for your information we are not getting married in a church, as if it is any of your business anyhow, did you become God all of a sudden. So what if we had them out of wedlock at least I don`t have a number of childre by different dad`s. We were the first for each other and the only. We are in a committed relationship and to me that is all that matter. All a legal marrigae is is a piece of paper. We have the same love for one another as a married couple does. And for the judgemental bible thumpers it is just as sinful to divorce and remarry but you do it anyhow! When it is you that gets to make a decision for me on Judement day than you can sit here and tell me how to live my life and the reasons to get married.
Does it really matter why people get married? I know people that get married and a few years down the road hate each other but live in a miserable marriage because they don`t believe in divorce or people divorce after 6 months or a year, does that make them better than me just because I want to make sure that if anything happens to me the man that has loved me and supported me for so many years gets nothing in return?

Not everyone gets married in a church building, of course. For some marriage is a legal thing, for others its a spiritual thing. Each to his own.

Hahahahahaha... At least im getin married... But you... What are you doing looking at all the messages in here... You know steph who ever you are, everybody thinks you are a LOOSER... And I do make my self clear in more than one lenguage.... Ok... That is it... Renata

Oh my, do you ever make me laugh. You can`t even attempt to insult someone without looking like a fool. Looser? Perhaps you meant loser. You are so ridiculous I just about wet my pants laughing at you. I truly feel sorry for you since you are so stupid.

Meredith seems really judgmental.

Judgemental -- perhaps....yet she`s probably right. Brandy really made herself look bad by her post.

I don`t care how I look, is it any of your business.? Maybe I did make it sound wrong, but it isn`t all about the money. We do have a wonderful life together and we could spend the next 50 yrs not married on paper and that would be fine to us, as long as we are committed to each other what difference does it make? Are we hurting you and your life? For the last 9 yrs we have had the worse and going toward the better and not once did one of us run away or back down out of the relationship. We have stood beside each other and supported each other through everything. Neither one of has cheated or lied to the other and to us that is all that is important. Please decribe to me your idea of marriage that way we will know exactly what is wrong in our relationship other than a piece of paper? Please explian to me the relationship you have with your husband or soon to be and let us compare differences other than we have 2 kids.

Brandy, you are awfully defensive on this subject; you need to calm down. The point is your post puts you into a poor light in regards to why you`re getting married. I`m sure you`re getting married for all the right reasons, but re-read your post and you`ll understand why people got the wrong impression of why you`re getting married. Perhaps you could have re-phrased it a bit so that people didn`t feel you were getting married only for money.

Good luck to you with your wedding.

I think people should get married because they are in love, and share a bond, whether it`s in a church or at the courthouse. I feel you as a couple are shareing a symbol of your love with those closest to you. I am getting married in a month (at a church) because I am in love, and no we do not have a child out of "wedlock". The piece of paper that makes it legal and gives you more financial security is however a bonus. By the way, Meridith how old are you? You seem to have the same views as my grandmother. Brandy, I see exactly where you are coming from. In your beliefs you feel you are married, I respect that, too bad the government does not.

And at this point it isn`t even about money, we still aren`t getting married for another 2 1/2 yrs! In our situation at least we aren`t another teen statistic. I had our first son 2 months after we graduated high school together. He started college and had a decent job, we moved into our own place the day we graduated. We have never been on welfare, he quit college because he found a better job and didn`t need a college degree. He makes 40,000 a yr plus great benefits. We have a nice home and nice cars, our kids are well taken care of and don`t lack anything. I am the den leader for my oldest son`s scout den and his dad is the coach for his t-ball team, our youngest will be starting preschool this coming school year. It isn`t like we are poor white trash free loading off of other people because we had our kids young and not married. Our kids are normal and so is our family life. Yes we hit hard times and struggled but find a married couple who hasn`t as well. I am quite happy with the life we have!

Meredith,
You seem to have a problem with Brandy`s life? Like she said, where is she hurting you? And you never did answer the original post, Why are you getting married? After all, I did think that this is what this thread was about, not judging or bashing other people.

Now Heather is that a statement or a question? I have no issue with her life as I don`t know her. Your interpretation is poor and incaccurate. As Kay said, it was the way Brandy phrased her answer that struck most people as odd.

Why I got married isn`t really anyone`s business, thus I don`t wish to discuss it. My private life is mine and I will share details with whom choose.

You are right Meredith, it did sound rather horrible but I think the more i tried to explain it the worse I made it sound!
If we didn`t love each other, we wouldn`t still be together. We were just really never ready for the whole marriage thing, I think after watching both of our mother`s marry two or three times we were afraid of that total committment. But now that we are growing older and wiser togther it doesn`t seem that bad. I would rather not marry than be divorced a time a or two. It cost alot these days. At least we didn`t get married just because I was pregnant. We have worked on our relationship and have grown with it, now that we realize that happy marriages do exsist, though very few and far between anymore than we are ready to make that next step. I do hope that you are getting married because you love him, as I do love my FH as well.