Help! Simple Wedding Being TAMPERED With!!
Here`s the problem. I just wanted to have a simple wedding and not get too worked up about all the frills and etiquette of it. My fiance and I planned what we thought was the perfect wedding for us and we stuck to our low budget and had fun planning the event.
Now it seems as though everyone is disappointed in what we have planned and is not shy to offer their opinions on the dresses, showers, who is invited etc...
Am I not correct in saying that it is our wedding and we can do it as we please? If people don`t like how we have gone about things they don`t have to attend right?
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Laura V.
Posted by Laura V.; updated 03/23/04
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Laura you are absolutely right. Its YOUR wedding. You have the right to decide if it will be simple, or extravagant, or whatever. They are entitled to their opinions, but should keep it to themselves. If they really care about you, they will respect your choice to have whatever kind of wedding you want to have.
Posted by Missy; updated 03/23/04
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You are absolutely right!!!!!
Posted by Marcia; updated 03/23/04
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Laura, Missy is right. I am going through the same thing. Good luck with your wedding and congrats.
Mel
Posted by mel; updated 03/23/04
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I also am doing a small wedding --- I have a huge family - just in my immediate family there are 9 children, but I have 7 aunts & uncles that all have grown cousins now & my own friends... That`s just my side - luckily my fiance has a small family - still we have DRASTICALLY reduced our guest list to just 40 people. We figure it is our wedding - we have already been together for 7 years & the wedding is just for us anyway - there is no need for EVERYONE and their brother to be there. Plus we just bought a house last year & that kind of broke our bank.
My mother keeps telling me that I should invite everyone... That`s her main issue, but I told her if she wants to kick in the extra $ that it will cost that is fine but we are young & on a budget. There is no need to be in debt and miserable for the next 25 years for 1 happy day.
Posted by donna; updated 03/23/04
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Donna, I completely agree. I told my mother that if she wants to invite her friends and other family members I haven`t spoken to in at least 10 years that she has to pay for them.
Posted by Laura V.; updated 03/24/04
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There are a lot of family politics involved in weddings. One person wants this, another person wants that. They need to be mature enough to realize that it is your wedding, your day, not theirs.
Posted by Lia; updated 03/24/04
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Hi Distressed
Your absolutly right! What they are not thinking is about you (bride and groom) and that is very selfish.
You and your fiance planned what you wanted it is your day. Tell them if their not happy plan their own.
And remember people can be jealous they see happiness and love they desire therefore will find fault in what you are doing and sometimes it is unconsious.
Continue with your plans and and be very happy with your husband to be and if they support that idea then invite them!
God Bless and the best for your future
Qaadirah
Posted by Qaadirah; updated 03/30/04
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Laura, can you clarify something? You stated "Now it seems as though everyone is disappointed in what we have planned and is not shy to offer their opinions on the dresses, showers, who is invited etc..." does this mean you and your fiance planned your own bridal shower?
Posted by Kay; updated 03/31/04
