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My ex-boyfriend is engagaged and the wedding is in June. My husband and I are delighted for them but I have not seen him in over 5 years. We have never met her and he was not invited to our special day. Last night, I found out we will be invited to their wedding which will be out of town. Will it be ok to just respond "no" and send a small gift since we are not that close and the budget does not allow an overnight trip? Can I also just not go to the bridal shower? Should I also send a present for that?
The couple is very nice and we are reconnecting since moving within 20 minutes of their house.
Posted by mswife; updated 03/22/04
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You could just send a gift and a nice card. That would be enough.
Posted by Missy; updated 03/22/04
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It is wonderful that you and your ex maintained a friendly connection and there is no hard feelings and jealousy, especially on his fiancees part, can`t say i would be woman enough for that!
I think sending a gift would be fine and maybe after reconnecting or whatever take them to dinner to have the 4 of you celebrate
Posted by Brandy; updated 03/22/04
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Don`t go. I was invited to my ex-finance`s wedding and let me tell you that even though his wife was pretty civil and even thanked me for coming and said that she was glad i came, i later found out that she had wished that i hadnt come. Now everytime she sees me, i know she is putting up a fake front, but i have to admit that i respect her for being polite and kind to my face; that takes guts....
Posted by someone; updated 03/23/04
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I don`t know that I would go to an ex-boyfriend`s wedding. I`ve moved on in life. And I don`t feel this need to "prove" that I`ve moved on, by going to his wedding.
Posted by Lia; updated 03/24/04
