REHERSAL DINNER ETIQUETTE
When planning a rehersal dinner...usually you invite the parties significant others if they are invited to the wedding...but do you also need to pay for their dinner, if cost is an issue
Posted by MARION; updated 03/22/04
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I think everyone`s dinner is supposed to be covered. If its not affordable, then cut back on the guest list. The rehearsal dinner is usually financed by the groom or the groom`s family.
Posted by Missy; updated 03/22/04
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If you invite them, which is quite appropriate, their meals should also be paid for by the host/hostess.
Posted by Kay; updated 03/22/04
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Yes, you must invite them to the dinner and yes, you must pay for their meals.
Posted by Linda; updated 03/23/04
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If cost is really an issue then maybe you should consider letting everyone pay their own way. I have a very open and understanding family but no one has any money so the groom and i are paying for the wedding ourselves so everyone has agreed to buy their own dinner at the rehearsal dinner
Posted by wendy williams; updated 03/25/04
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Why not have a potluck type dinner? Maybe hold it at someones house and ask people to bring one dish to share. It works great in my family because when we all get together there is over 18 of us (immediate family with spouses!).
Posted by CLL; updated 03/25/04
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Remember that the rehearsal dinner is the demonstration of appreciation for being part of the wedding. You are obligated or should feel obligated to pay for those you invite. However, single groomsmen and bridesmaids should not bring a date, this places an undue burdon on the wedding host(s). And if money is an issue, try to scale the location and the guest list accordingly. Don`t invite half the wedding guest list to steak and lobster and then complain. This is one of the first situations where you will realize that you are not going to please everyone. Good luck.
Posted by marcom; updated 04/12/04
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WHAT IF I ONLY HAVE A CERTAIN DOLLAR AMOUNT THAT I CAN SPEND AND THEY WANT MORE. SHOULD I TELL THEM THIS.
Posted by TERI; updated 04/27/04
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WHAT IF I ONLY HAVE A CERTAIN DOLLAR AMOUNT TO SPEND AND THEY WANT MORE? DO I TELL THEM?
Posted by TERI; updated 04/27/04
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Serve something less elaborate then. Make it a casual, fun dinner. Lasagna with salad and garlic bread is really inexpensive and everyone loves it. Or maybe you could order a a couple of those 6 foot subs and some side of potato salad, coleslaw, chips and pickles. Have a big sheetcake for desset. There are lots of things that you could do that are fun, inexpensive and feed a lot of people.
Posted by Hanna; updated 04/27/04
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Have a BBQ at a relative`s house. That`s cheap and you don`t have to worry about leaving a tip! :-)
Posted by Angela; updated 04/27/04
