Young Marriage

First of all you say you `might` be pregnant. Go and have a medical doctor test you. This will give you the first answer that you need to think about. Secondly, if you are pregnant, you are young and you need to look at all your options before making a decision to marry. Talk to you parents...I know it will be very tough, but you need their help. You are very young and they may be angry at first, but realistically they would rather have you safe than pregnant and alone. Then you can start to figure out whether getting married this young is a good idea or not. Being married does not make you relationship any better, in fact it is much harder. My thoughts are with you.

I know i should o to adoctor and everything my brother and sister in law r goin to go get me a test tomarrow and i have been showing all the signs my stomache is like rock hard now too but its still kinda big so me and my friends think i am pretty much pregnant i have talked to my parents about all this and they think if i do have this baby that he should stay in the babys life no matter what and they aint to happy bout marriage but they said if thats what we want then they r goin to help us the whole way and i talked to his parents too and they said they would help us suport the baby and help with the marriage if thats what we decide

This is my aol screen name if any one can help me ccrene08 or roberts08gurl and my yahoo screen name is lilcornish08 someone plz im me and help

At 14 you are too young to get married. You don`t have the means to maintian a home or a marriage - financially nor emotionally. What are you in 8th or 9th grade? You need to figure out a way to finish through high school and remain at home with your parents. Maybe you and your boyfriend also want to consider adoption. I think your parents and his parents and you and your boyfriend should all make an appointment together with a counselor to help sort out what the options and best arrangements would be. Good luck to you.

Confused,
Get married. Arrange to live with either your parents or his, but don`t let this poor child grow up without a father. I know some people will say, "but he can stay in the child`s life, they don`t have to get married for him to stay in the child`s life"

14 years old, that means ur probably in 9th grade. See what assistance ur state has for teenage mothers, but finish ur education. Maybe ur mom or his mom can babysit while ur in school. Whatever u do, don`t abort the baby, and dont give it up for adaption.

I know people who were married at ur age or a little older 15/16 and they are still married in their 50`s.

Someone again, you are wrong. Please don`t listen to her/him. You need to make a decision that is right for you and your baby (if you are pregnant). You need to seek proper prenatal care and plan for your future. You are too young to get married. Getting married at 14, you have a higher risk of divorce, dropping out of high school, poverty, spousal abuse and more. You can maintain a relationship with the father and he with his child. My question is how old is he? Is he 14 as well? Just because you made a mistake doesn`t mean that you have to forfeit your right to a productive life. There are many resources available to young mothers so that you can finish high school, go to college, etc. If you get married now, it will be for the wrong reasons. When you get married (hopefully longer than 6 years from now), it should be beacause you are in love and want to spend the rest of your lives together, not because you had sex and got pregnant. Follow your heart and be thankful that you have a loving and supportive family. Good luck to you.

Thanx to the ppl that are supporting me and to that person that isnt u dont know how me and him are i love him with everything and he is 14 too but we know what is ahead of us he loves me and like i said i love him with everyhting i want to spend the rest of my life with him and i want him to be the guy i se when i walk down the isle at my wedding yea we may be young but if we do decide to get married we wont for like 2 years at leats well bye

Getting married right now for the baby`s sake is not the answer. You both need to know who you are emotionally before you can commit yourselves in marriage, if you want that marriage to work, and provide a healthy environment for all of you as a family unit.

Please see that you get the appropriate medical care, starting now, for your well-being and that of the baby. It is not something that can wait.

You can still keep contact with the father, and he with the child, if that`s what you decide you want when the baby finally comes. Stay with your parents for now .. You will both need all the support you can get.

Invest some time in parenting classes (both of you), you will learn much and be a stronger parent. Maintain your school classes, and work hard to do well; you both need all the education you can get right now.

Your lives are about to change radically, and getting married right now is not in either of your best interests. You are both still growing, physically, emotionally and intellectually. Being pregnant is enough of a demand on you (emotionally and physically), without having to adjust into the demands and responsibilities of marriage.

Very best wishes for your good health and a healthy baby.