Gary

#1 Who is Missy?

#2 I am hapilly married for 27 years with three children...the reason why I am visiting this site is becasue my eldest daughter (who is 23 years old, getting married at the proper age, and is not BEGGING for money like some homeless vagabond ) is getting married. Oh and she does not have any children, unlike SOME people on this site.

#3 I am an American Born citizen, therefore I have the right to criticize, scrutinize (would you like me to define that for you), and offer my opninions on any matter that I so please.

Oh, also I forgot to mention that my daughter graduated suma cum laude (for those of you who have no idea what that is that means she graduated with honors, 3.7 GPA if I may brag) with a degree in Molocular and Microbiology and her husband is a physical therapist, so unlike most people on this website, they are financially stable and educated.

I am 26yrs old no kids --for your info you fat loser. And if you daughter getting is married why are you so angry? its not your job to judge i belive that is GOD american or not.

POINT PLEASE stay off this site ass!!

Did you notice that in all my opinionated postings I failed to use foul and obscene language and still managed to get my point across? Those who use profane language to defend an argument are uneducated and obviosly not smart enough to find bigger words to express how they are feeling, so then they resort to using the language thier parents taught them when they were 5. Do yourself a favor, go grab a thesaurus and a dictionary and voice your opinions like proper young lady should.

Gary, there are many people on this site that are well educated and have the means to pay for their own wedding. I am a well educated personal banker and my future husband is a doctor. Please don`t lump all people on this site into one category. It just proves to everybody else how narrow minded you really are.

Look I am a very smart lady but when you deal with idiots like you ,you have to stoop to your level. I am so done with this posting to you You will be in my prayers hope you dont sleep well tonight.

Sabrina,

I will pray for you and unlike you I hope you sleep well tonight and all the night`s that you have in the future. Good luck in all your endeavors.

Gary

CLL,

No offense, but since when is the title "personal banker" equal "educated?" Do not confuse the two terms. A personal banker does not even need a college degree--all that is required is a high school diploma. That does not necessarily mean a personal banker is "educated."

Finacially stable? Yes, that you may be. Educated? Maybe yes maybe no. Your husband, however, is educated. Congrats to him.

I did not mean to classify ALL people on this web site incapable and indigent--there are a SELECT few who may know what a wedding and marriage entails. However, CLL, for your peace of mind, I will furthur differentite those I am referring to.

Best wishes.

Could not help myself but If you cant say anything nice dont say anything at all. We dont need people like you in our site. This is a happy time for us girls/guys not a site for your type.

Thanks for the clarification Gary, however, I am a well educated personal banker. I do have a few degrees below my belt. I come from a family where BOTH my parents were school principals. I do understand the value of a good education. Please do not try to tell me that I am not educated. I do understand that someone with a high school diploma CAN do this job, however to get to the level of success that I am at takes a lot more than that. Don`t under estimate somebody that just has a high school diploma because education is not everything you need to get by in this world.

CLL,

Underestimate is ONE word. Not "under estimate." It`s underestimate.

Educated huh? That was not just a regular typo, trust me.

Why are you so mean? Seriously Gary, nobody needs to be put down. From your previous posts you talk about God. Well unfortunately you are not acting in a manner that is pleasing to Him. Just stop Gary please, stop. We just want to talk to other people who are getting married and see if they can help us with questions that we may have. We are not here to be put down or made fun of. Thank you.

Hi Gary,
Since you so kindly like to correct other peoples spelling... Who are "uneducated" because of a mistype, why don`t you look at your own postings?

Re: How Young Is Too Young? "oppurtunities" opportunities (which you typed)

I just thought I would point it out. People make mistakes while they are typing. You did, so are you now uneducated? Do you even have an education? I don`t think this site is helping you in whatever you need, stop being rude to people. If you don`t have anything nice to type why type it at all?

To Gary.... You have done a fair job of critiquing the grammer and arguements of others on this site. Perhaps now would be a good time to sit back and take a break from looking at others short comings (as you seem to see them) and take a good hard look at yourself.
I have a statement and some questions for you now. You are being critical of the people posting on this site (grammer, spelling, life choices etc.) This site is ment to be informal as is much of the person to person writing that occures on other sites on the internet. Because of this informality, when typ-o`s and grammer mistakes happen, people aren`t necessarily gonig to go out of their way to correct them. Now here is the question I promised you earlier. What do you get out of criticizing these people? Does it make you feel powerful or more superior?
If it does, I would argue that you are only looking at the parts of people that you feel you can easily out do with bragging about your own life or that of your daughters (I wonder what she would think if she were to see the way you are talking to these people whom you do not know, and showing them little to no respect).
Just some facts about myself for you to think about now. I am a student at University and have presently completed my degree in sociology, and am working through my HBSW, which i will fiinish next year. I completed my grade 10 in Piano from the royal conservatory of music and teach piano lessons out of my house as one of my part time jobs -- thats right: it`s my very own business!!--. I completed my Lifegarding and Instructors papers and have been teaching children with special needs (ie. Downsyndrome, CP, amputees, epilepsy, Myotubular Myopathy, etc.) how to swim for the past 9 years. (I love being with children: Can you tell?) I have taken several years of training in vocal music and on how to play the church pipe organ. As a result, I have been able to become a part time organist/ choir director for several of the churchs in town for the last 5 years. Through all my part time jobs which i have kept up through my highschool and university career, I have been able to keep myself far enough out of debt to be able to afford to get married now (however, i`m still on a budget as we all are). I don`t have any children. I do have a learning disability that effects my ability to spell (as you might have already noticed) and read fluently, regardless of which i have managed to be successful in my education and other life goals.

Does any of this make me any better or worse than anyone else who is posting on this site? NO!!! Does it make me differnet than others on this site? YES ... Everyone is different from everyone else... That is why we are called individuals!! Does any of this kind of personal information matter on this particular site? NOT REALLY!!! People use this site to get support, help, insite, ideas from others in similar situation. They are ready and willing to share their problems to be able to add this large list of people to their social support networks. To me: that last fact is amazing. I believe that it takes a stronge individual to be able to ask for help.

As someone who has studied human interactions and social patterns for the last 5 years I feel that I may be able to give you a suggestion. I think that you should re-examine your communication style so that you might be able to get your opinion across and yet not be taken as being so rude and assuming by everyone you speak to.

It`s just a suggestion and like any other, you can choose to tak it or leave it.

To everyone else reading this post...

Don`t let this individual ruffle your feathers. He is obviously trying to get some feeling of power out of this and probably has many problems in his life that he wouldn`t begin to discuss on a board such as this because it would take away from his appearance of power and superiority.

Maby if we all ignore him he`ll go away for a while!!

In any case, I think that the people that I have had the grace to chat with on this board have been real gems!!! They have all offered their time and ideas to help me (a practicle stranger) whenever i`ve asked for it.

Keep Posting Girls!!

Cheers all!!

Stacey....

Excuse me while I die laughing...

A degree in Sociology? (Excuse me again while I continue laughing)

Allow me to turn my nose at the major. A sociology major! Ha ha

A degree in Sociology proves only that you have enough self discipline to actually finish a course of study. I, myself, do applaud you in that area.

However, it takes absolutely NO BRAIN POWER whatsoever to get a degree in Sociology. It is a study of ALL THEORY, nothing can be proven, and all you so called "sociologists" do is study three main views and you take classes such as "Sex Roles in MOdern Society" or "Sociology of Drug Abuse."

Give me a break. Any idiot can be a sociologist.

I will retire from this website now. I have had my day of laughs.

Farewell to all.

Gary

I am an educated individual. I am 2 years into a 4 year nursing program and I am doing quite well. I am planning a wedding to a man whom I love dearly and I feel no need to justify my life`s choices to someone whom I will never meet. No one else on here should feel that way either. We are all beautiful, strong women, and although we may not all agree with each others decisions, we have to accept their right to choose them. We all come from different walks of life with different beliefs, but noone has the right to say hateful things and hide behind their beliefs as a justification. You don`t have to agree with anyone`s lifestyle, but remember, education is not a right (although it should be), but it is a privilege, and a college degree and letters behind your name make you no more ethical than anyone else. They don`t make you a better person, just a better speller. Having children out of wedlock is not a sin, people make mistakes and anyone else who would insult them for that must then therefore be perfect (let he who is without sin cast the first stone). Being poor does not disallow you from falling in love (we can`t all be doctors and lawyers). We are all diverse and beautiful people and everyone here needs to be treated in a respectful manner. If you can`t do that, then grow up and visit somewhere else where people don`t mind being treated like dirt. We are all on here for support, and if you can`t provide that, then your purpose here is not needed. (oh, and by the way - education is not the mark of a decent person, rather accepting others for who they are is what makes a decent individual).

LOL... You just don`t get it do you gary. Did you even read what I wrote? Once again you only choose to comment on the parts which you feel you can put down (ie. You put down my degree and yet don`t acknowledge all of my other accomplishments). Sigh** I wonder what it is going to take to break through into your little world. What you say to me not only is based on ill founded logic (you say it doesn`t take a brain and yet acknowledge that it takes determination and work to complete this level of education) ... It really doesn`t matter either. This site is not ment for this.... In other words, you are misusing this board. Perhaps one day you will understand what I have said. Two final questions for you before you back out of this site. Do you enjoy the feeling you get from trying to hurt people you don`t know by putting them down? Have you usually been successful in the past at this `hobby` of yours?
Good luck to you where ever you go.

To everyone else on here....
What do you think of what i`ve said... Did it make any sense to the rest of you?

Hi Stacey,
You’re right, Gary is misusing the board and I just emailed the webmaster, hoping to get Gary`s messages removed. I don`t believe anyone needs to be exposed to his racist remarks and his vulgarity. I haven`t been on for a few days so I backtracked to see what else he said and there has to a lot of hurt feelings out there. If he IS who he says he is, I certainty wouldn’t have wanted him as my doctor, thank god he’s retired! Ladies, Step back from it all and look at the big picture. He is a retired, old man with nothing to do NOTHING…. But to post messages with his "fellow brides". That’s sad. If his daughter is the one getting married, why isn`t she the one who is posting? Does he think he’s being helpful to her? I`m sure if his daughter read his posts, she would be ashamed of him and I really doubt his wife is laughing alongside him. If he is abusive to the girls’ posting, imagine what his wife`s life must be like. Why do we feel that we have to prove our education and accomplishments to him, we`re better than that. He’s not anyone important. I’m sorry the ladies had to endure his hatefulness. I’m sure the board will resume to its usual helpful state.

I think ALL of you need professional help.

Geesh sounds like to me Gary is one of those creepy old men that has nothing better to do with his day than to scour the internet. Give him a break he probably has no one else to talk to, and this is his form of entertainment.
May God be with you Gary