Invite The Pastor?
I`m not too clear on this and I wanted to know what others are doing. We are getting married by a Lutheran Pastor. Neither me or my FH belong to the parish, however it is the perfect place for us to get married. The pastor is great and has been supportive of the fact that we want a church wedding, but neither of us have a specific church that we go to. We are paying a rather large "donation" to the parish for letting us marry there, do we also invite him and his wife to the reception for dinner?
Posted by CLL; updated 03/09/04
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I plan on inviting my pastor and his wife, as a nice gesture. I have been to other rehersal dinners where the pastor is invited. I am debating on whether or not to invite the church assigned "wedding coordinator" and the organist and thier spouses. I haven`t seen that done before.
Posted by Denise; updated 03/09/04
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Okay, so you say you are inviting him to the Rehearsal dinner? are you also inviting him to the Reception?
Posted by CLL; updated 03/09/04
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I`m sorry, I was thinking rehersal when I read your post. Yes I do plan to invite the pastor and his wife to the reception dinner.
Posted by Denise; updated 03/09/04
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DLL,
Yes we are inviting our Pastor and his wife to the reception.
Good Luck,
Sandie
Posted by Sandie; updated 03/09/04
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Thanks for the input. I think we`ll extend the invite.
Posted by CLL; updated 03/10/04
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I don`t think it`s optional. The pastor and spouse are supposed to receive an invitation to the wedding and reception.
Posted by Jessie; updated 03/10/04
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From what I gather, it doesn`t seem like she`s a member of this church, so why invite the pastor? Our pastor was found through a reference list given to us. I`d never met him in the past and therefore, I am not inviting him to the rehearsal dinner/reception. But, he better show up to my wedding. ;) I think if you have no ties with him, then you shouldn`t invite him. However, if you are a member of the church, I`d personally would invite him. As usual, go with what you truly feel.
Posted by Nancy; updated 03/10/04
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Nancy, That was kind of my thought. We have no affiliation with him or the parish. He is a very nice person and the church is perfect, but because we have no other relationship with him. I would rather have 2 additional friends coming rather than pay $60 for him and his spouse to come to the reception. Also, he is receiving a heafty sum of money to allow us to marry in his church. I don`t know, I am now kind of leaning towards not inviting them. If we belonged to the church absolutley, no question about it they would get invited, but I am not so sure in this situation.
Posted by CLL; updated 03/10/04
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I wouldn`t feel obligated to invite the pastor.
Posted by Liza; updated 03/12/04
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You should most definitely feel obligated to invite the pastor. The officiant and his or her spouse are always invited. It`s a necessary inclusion. Whether or not you are a member of the church or know the officiant is irrelevant.
Posted by Linda; updated 03/12/04
