Wanting Cash Instead Of Gifts
Hello. I am recently engaged and am planning a wedding in august. My fiance and i are hoping for some gifts but mainly would appreciate monetary gifts, as we are fixing up our new home. How do we go about this? do we simply register for the few things we need, and then hope that once they`ve been purchased everyone else will give monetarily? thanks
Posted by cef; updated 03/04/04
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This question has been posted a lot here. Guests may bring a gift even if its not one on your registry. I got a lot of non-registry gifts. I did not ask for cash, but received some from a few guests. I would never ask or even hint that I want/need money from others. A wedding is not a fund-raising event.
Posted by MIssy; updated 03/04/04
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If you would prefer monetary gifts for your wedding then opt to not register anywhere. When people ask you what you need tell them kindly that you have everything that you need. Leave it at that, never mention money. Your guests will understand that cash is preferred without ever having to mutter a word about money.
Some people may tell you that you should put something about preferring money for a gift in your invites -- this is completely unacceptable and I beg you not to do that. Also, some may say that your family should spread the word that you would prefer money -- PLEASE don`t do that either, it`s rude.
Simply opt to not register and graciously tell your guests "oh no...I can`t think of a thing I need." People can put two and two together.
Good luck and best wishes.
Posted by Kay; updated 03/04/04
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Another thing you might concider is registering at a place like Home Depot so you can get the things you need to fix up the house.
Posted by Liza; updated 03/12/04
