Brides Maids Problems

I could not have written your message better, the exact same thing happened to me. My older sister started acting like a nut job and saying the same things, "I`m not wearing that" "I"m not walking with him" and so on. I finally had to kick her out of wedding party to get some sense into her. As soon as she saw I had had enough and was not going to back down she started acting like she took her meds.......lol. Everything is fine now, you just have to stand your ground. Hope this helps
Carri

I was in a similar situation. It was my cousin though not sister. She is my MOH and she didn`t want this dress and that kind of dress. I changed my dress style for her. Then it was i don`t want dyeable shoes. Im not going to wear them again, i don`t want to buy something im not wearing again. Finally i said, if you didn`t want to do that then you shouldn`t have said you would be my MOH and i told her whatever EVERYONE chooses for shoes thats what she`ll have to wear whether she wanted to or not. She didn`t say anything after that and hasn`t said anything since then. You just have to put your foot down and be firm. It`s your wedding and you do what you like, just keep everyone else in mind. :o)
Mel

Its good advice.... There is one more problem that i neglected to mention however. My parents (who are paying for part of the wedding) want her to be in it and have told me that i would regret not having her in it. Maby... Maby not. And to top it all off... When i did kick her out last november as i told my family i was going to (at which point they gave me their whole support) three days later my mother told my sister that i didn`t mean it then i was informed that she WILL be in the party...
There went all the power i had: poof... All gone.
I`m beginning to think that ignoring her is my only option (and seeings how that was too hard to do while living with her i have moved in with my uncle for a short time and out of my parents house.).
I`m thinking of keeping one of my out of town friends (who is about the same size as her) on the side lines just incase... Or perhaps just have two brides maids and three grooms men (is that an ok idea?). Keep the comments coming!!! it feels good to vent and know that there are others out there.

Thats perfectly fine.........many people don`t have equal parties on each side. Usually the preference of what the bride and groom wants.

Mel

Hi. I am one of the four brides maids that are going to be in my friends wedding coming up in July. I personally am going with the dress and everything because I feel that it is her wedding and she chose me out of others she could have picked, and its her day so it doesnt really bother me at all..Not unless it was out ragious or something.. I think you should just tell your sister that, thats the way its going to be, and either she`s in it or she`s not..
Thanks

I had 2 situations like this.. One with my sister and one with the maid of honor. My sister ending up resigning herself which was a blessing the maid of honor had to be told that it was the wish of myself and my fiance that she not be in the wedding. This happened one month before the wedding itself. B/c of all the bitterness the maid was also asked not to even attend the wedding although my sister did. I asked her to do another "job" at the wedding and she was perfectly content to do so. She was still involved but not able to ruin the day. My wedding 2 weeks ago was wonderful. Talk to your mom alone maybe and explain things that is what I had to do. I know you feel stuck but you have to do what YOU will be happy with in the long run.

Its your wedding sweetie, don`t let her bombard you with threats to get her way. Tell her in a nice way that it hurts your feelings when she says things like that, and that its your special day and this is how you want it. If that doesn`t work, replace her. I am dead serious, even if you choose a person who you are not too close to, do it. Who cares what anyone else says, its your special day, not theres. You don`t need it spoiled by bratty bridesmaids or anything like that.