WHY :(
I don`t know about everyone else! But a vast majority of questions getting answered on here are nothing but negative remarks. Im pretty sure the way people do things is different everywhere. Just because you may do something one way doesn`t mean someone else does it that way too. Things are changing in the world and change is good. Nobody says there is a set rule anyone has to follow when doing anything.
Plus a majority of things also goes by your families and traditions. EX. I asked for meal ideas, i am having an outside wedding. A picnic dinner would go suit my theme wonderfully. And someone making rude remarks because thats not was is suppose to be served at a wedding. What is served at a wedding is whatever the bride and groom want to serve and however they want their day to be. Our families don`t care for the formal sit down dinners. Another reason the picnic idea goes so well with our theme. So all in all it depends what part of the country/state you are from and how your families are. And my area a vast majority of weddings the guests pay for their alcohol and nobody thinks its rude. They have other options for drinks and if they don`t want it they can CHOOSE to buy something.
So what i am trying to say instead of these rude remarks, give helpful ideas and stop the negativety. We all come here to help one another not put each other down. Have a great day. :)
Melissa
Posted by melissa; updated 03/01/04
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Wow laura,do you mean to tell me because im seving coffee and some champagne with our 4 course meal, but not soda or beer im tacky?What ever happened to old fashioned...I cant afford it? Tacky? Tacky is going to someones wedding, (which is supposed to be the START of their life together,not a debt to pay for 3 years) Insult what is served or not served,what they might have to pay for(the horror of spending a buck on soda),then more often then not throwing 10 bucks or 20 in a card( for 2 people) leaving and nit-picking about what was served or how the soda and beer wasn`t free!THAT is tacky.How dare people go to a wedding,Get the meal for free, and expect more than what was offered! You can call it ettiquet, but I call it ballsy! Now that im paying for all these meals, favors, programs and everything else,im starting to realize this is starting to be more about the guest than about my marriage! Thankfully at least the people closest to me put me at ease, My close aunt said to me....hey, we dont care if you serve tuna sandwiches,we`ll be there and no one would ever mention it "should" be any other way.For the inevitable people who will squawk about paying for their soda, I say, hey at least they`re getting the meal for free....and their not even the ones getting married!! : )
Posted by stacy; updated 03/01/04
