Rehersal Dinner / Bridal Shower Problems
My fiance`s father is paying for the rehersal dinner and being wonderful about it. He has picked a very upscale restaurant that I never imagioned holding my rehersal dinner at. So needless to say I was very excited to share the news with my mother. She wanted to know why we couldn`t have it at a place closer to our house and not their (which is only about 35 min.) and wanted to make sure I included my aunts, uncles and their children. My two aunts have 6 kids. I made a fuss because I don`t think my aunt`s families have a place at the rehersal dinner. It is at 8:30pm and one hour away from their home. It is bad enough that they will be at the wedding, but am I wrong for not wanting my rehersal dinner to turn into romper room? Also, I know about my wedding shower but only because my bridesmaids had to tell me because my mother was being so difficult. They wanted to do things that they knew I would like and mother wants to do the traditional umbrella and terribly boring shower games. She is even arguing with them over the color of the paper goods. They wanted green to match the invitations and dresses, and she wants flowers. Anyway, I
Am feeling angry towards my mother for making this such a miserable experience for them and me and I don`t know what to do. I would appreciate ANY advice.
Posted by Chrissy; updated 02/28/04
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Let ur mom choose things that you don`t care about and then do what you want for the things you care about. Then it seems like your compromising. For example, let her have flower paper products at your shower, trust me, the only people who will notice that they are not the same color as your wedding colors are you and ur bridesmaid. Let her have some of her silly games, maybe she can do half and your friends can plan half
As for the dinner, explain to her that you are really embarrased to invite sooo many people when ur father in law is paying. Tell her that you want it to be simple and intimate and u would feel embarrased only inviting ur aunts and not their kids, so you will not invite any.
At the end of it all hon, be thankful that you have a mom......
Posted by elbint; updated 02/28/04
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Tradtionally, your Aunts would not be included in the rehersal dinner unless they are in the Wedding. It is usually reserved for the Bridal party, immediate family of B&G, any body that is traveling from out of town for the Wedding. Readers, soloist or organist only if they are personal friends.Primarily those that are required to attend the rehersal!
Good Luck though, it can be so difficult when Moms want to be more help than you need!
Posted by RecentBride; updated 02/28/04
