Bad Bridesmaid
My second Matron of Honour is giving me a hard time about the dresses. She is adamantly refusing to pay for her dress because she feels that it is too expensive. I have gone to countless stores and I have found the dresses for a $50.00 discount, which means the dresses will cost $120.00. I paid a lot more than that for her wedding and my fiancee and I have volunteered to pay for her son`s ring bearer tux. After the wedding she will be my sister-in-law because her husband is my fiancee`s brother. I don`t want a family conflict. What should i do?
Posted by Michelle; updated 02/22/04
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Maybe she shouldn`t be in the wedding?
Posted by missy; updated 02/22/04
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Just in case, offer her a way of stepping down from her position as Bridesmaid. Maybe she`s realized that she doesn`t really want to do it and is using the dress`s cost as an excuse. When you get the chance, say, "I know how busy you are these days, so I wanted to let you know that I would totally understand if you could not be my bridesmaid..." She may say, "Okay, great, thanks for understanding." Although she won`t be in your party anymore, you`ll have avoided a potential fued. However, she may say that being there for you is a priority and she truly wants to do it. If that`s the case, tell her that if it truly is important to her, it only makes sense for her to make room in her budget to buy the dress. If she says she "can`t afford it", she`s really just saying that fulfilling her financial responsibility as a bridesmaid is not as important as whatever she would rather spend her money on. Tell her that`s okay with you, and let her go with a smile and a hug and a "thanks for understanding."
Posted by Andrea; updated 02/22/04
