Giving Away
This is my second marriage (and his first). We are having a pretty traditional ceremony, but because I am on my own at 30 years of age, I feel a little funny about being "given away". My father passed when I was fifteen. I am the youngest child, and I have three older brothers. Any ideas on how I could enter the church? My oldest brother gave me away at my first marriage.
Thanks for any ideas you may have!
Posted by Michelle; updated 02/21/04
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I know in the first church where I was married that there was two different doors coming into the church, one from the back and one from the side, both lead to directly to the front of the church {to the altar}. I always thought that it would have looked wonderful if my husband and I have walked in at the same time but from the different doors. I thought that it would appear like we were walking into the ceremony, marriage, and life together. And not just him waiting in the front of the church and me doing all of the walking. That probably doesn`t make sense but anyway I always thought it would have been so pretty, but my mother decided that we simply couldn`t go against traditional.
I also think that if someone was having an evening wedding that it would have been would for the lights in the church to be turned off and a spot light of sorts {maybe flower girls carrying candles, a small adjustable light aimed toward the bride, or lite candles as part of the pew decorations} so that way it would only showcase the bride, which I think would also be pretty.
I do have several ideas but this post is probably long enough. If you could give a few more details about your wedding then maybe others could offer better ideas for your certain situation. {Details such as the time of day, kind of attendees you are planning on using, etc......} I am hoping that by listing these ideas that it gives you a place to start.
PS: An suggestion would be for your mother to give you away. My oldest sister renewed her wedding vows when she was married 10 years and my mother gave her away. It was so nice esp. Since my mother passed away not long after that due to a freak accident at home. Just another idea.
Posted by Amanda Finger; updated 02/21/04
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Michelle,
My daughter is giving me away, but you do not have to have anyone give you away. I have heard of a bride walking down the aisle herself and the groom being stationed half way and bride and groom walk the rest of the way together, as a way of walking into this marriage together. Any way you do it it will be beautiful. Do whatever you feel comfortable doing.
Good luck,
Sandie
Posted by Sandie; updated 02/22/04
