WEDDING GIFTS

Hey, I agree it`s rude to include this info directly on the invite.
However, I disagree with Linda on *this*
It`s rude to:
Re: 2) dictate to guests what gifts will or will not be appreciated.

While it`s inappropriate to make mention of it on an invite, I see nothing wrong with registering somewhere, so people know what to buy for you, or at least what you need. I mean, I have ALWAYS been gratefull when someone has registered for gifts. Otherwise, I`m left to guess what they want. It`s a real pain.
Maybe I`m confused, but are you saying it`s rude to regsiter *period*?
Laura

I think that it`s acceptable to register, but a registy is used as a guide by your guests, they`re not obligated to buy something off your registry.

OK....here is my 2 cents worth!
It is never acceptable to mention ANY type of gift in your Wedding invitation! Doesn`t matter if it is 1950 or 2025....it is rude. Of course people are going to give you gifts, but you cannot assume this. You are inviting those closest to you to celebrate this special moment in your lives as your GUESTS.
It is true people register at dept. Stores etc. And it is totally acceptable to place these cards in Shower invitations. The reason being is that a Shower should never be given by the Bride or close family members....(Mother or sisters of bride). One exception is a sister can host it if she is MOH or with other Brides Maids. Friends host the shower and the "Shower" concept is to Shower the couple with gifts, so making it acceptable. Old Fashioned maybe, but at least your grandma`s will not be embarrarsed! I hope good etiquette never goes out of style but the more time I spend on these boards, the more self serving rude behavior I encounter. Please vist a Etiquiette message board and pose these questions. You can think what you want, but your guests will be thinking how RUDE! Look up ETIQUETTE in the dictionary.....it is "the conduct or procedure required by good breeding" ENOUGH said!