Mother Daughter Dance?
Ok, as you can see, I have a lot of questions about my wedding. My fiance and I are planning our own wedding. My dad is alive, but not the best part of my life let`s say. My mom, whom I love dearly has been my rock when times were the worst! She was there all through law school (this being my last year thank God!) And I feel that she deserved to walk me down the aisle. But my father either beleives that he is walking me down at the ceremony, or would probably not even show. So my question is, would it be appropriate for my mom to walk me? Also, besides a mom/daughter dance, is there anything else that I can do besides that? I feel awkward dancing with my mom! But I want to have something at the reception to honor her as my mom and dad! As for my father, how can I get the word that I prefer him not to walk me, in the event he does show?
Any advice?
Leyla
Posted by Leyla; updated 02/18/04
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Other than having your mother join you in sitting at the head table (if you are doing that style of reception) the only other way that i could think of to honor her at your reception would be to have her take part in lighting your candle before you light a unity candle (if you are doing that). Other than that, she can read a passage at your service, be it religious or not. As for you father and what to say to him... You stated your point very clearly in your post. If you can manage to not get emotional during your conversation with him (so that there is no fighting or anything like that) I`d think that honesty is the best policy... And you said it very well... Your mother has been your rock, there for you all the time, so it therefore makes sence to you that she would be the one supporting you in your decision to walk down the aisle. Whatever you decide, i must say that it is a tough place that you are in emotionally that i probably can`t begin to emagine (nor do i envy your choices you have to make about that). Does this help you at all?? good luck to ya!!
Posted by stacey; updated 02/27/04
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Stacey,
You are right. Since then I have decided to just be forthright about it. I would rather have my mother walk me or even better, walk by myself. I mean honesty is the best policy--you are right. Why should my mother have to share that honor, since she has been the one there all along? Thanks a mil,
Leyla
Posted by Leyla; updated 02/28/04
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Leyla,
I can TOTALLY relate to your situation. My father is still alive but has never been active in my life. My mother has always been there for me. I would never dream of sharing that special moment of being given away with my father. Although, I`ve never been found of the mother walking the bride down the aisle. (only my opinion). So I`ve made the decision that I`ll be walking myself down the aisle but my mom will stand-up in her pew and walk me the last few steps and do the actual "giving away". I`ve also opted for the mother daugther dance, and sorry I have no other options for the reception. I`m just gald to see someone else is chosing mom while dad is alive. My fiance doesn`t seem to get that one.
Posted by Janine; updated 03/11/04
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My husband and I divorced when my daughter was very young and he has not been a big part in her life. She will be married in Jamaica w/a reception at home the following week. Her father will be at the reception and they will have a father/daughter dance but I would also like a mother/daughter dance. Can anyone recommend a song. (not A Song for my Daughter I don`t like that one) Help the reception is in two weeks.
Posted by Lisa; updated 06/12/04
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Lisa,
" In my daughter`s eyes" by Martina McBride is a beautiful for a mother/daughter.
Posted by Brandy; updated 06/12/04
