Cash As Wedding Gift

You could do the Wishing Well. But word of Mouth works best.

There is no appropriate way. Putting anything in your invites about gifts (money or items) is one word: RUDE!

Just let your maid of honor and bridemaids spread the word that you could really use the money, rather than gifts. Another good idea-- see if your travel agents offers gift certs. We had people buy is gc`s and we used thern towards our honeymoon.

There is no proper way, because the act itself is completely inappropriate. A wedding invitation is strictly for the purpose of inviting guests to your wedding, it should never include mention of gifts or money.

Also, registering for your honeymoon is not acceptable.

I believe there is a way to ask without being rude. The response from the guests was great, and much easier and faster for them to get a gift. In my bridal shower invitation, my friend sent the following:

(name) and (name) are not registered anywhere. Once households are combined they will have all the household items they`ll need. Money or gift cards are always a great idea. Suggestions are: Target, Wal-mart, Bed Bath & Beyond, or any dining or entertainment cards.

That is the most tacky thing I have ever heard! How rude! I would be embarrassed to have that written in any invitation. There is no appropriate way to tell someone to give you cash except by word of mouth. Invitations are for inviting your guests to celebrate your day (BTW, the dic defines a guest as someone to which hospitality is extended), not to finance a honeymoon or house. If you can`t afford a honeymoon, don`t go. If your guests choose to bring a gift, then it is their choice, not yours. Fancying it up with tacky poems or (god forbid) something as horrible as that written statement that they don`t need presents doesnt` make it any less insulting. In fact, I think it is more insulting.

Sarah!
You took the words right out of my mouth!
Don`t use your wedding as a fundraiser it`s rude and people will think that you have no class!

There is no way to ask for money without appearing rude. Its just plain old tacky.

I was wondering the same thing. See it is my second wedding we are well established and have everything we could need. Like i need another toaster blender or what ever else you can think that people could bring. I like the idea of the gift cards. See i dont` want it to sound tacky but at the same time i dont` want people to waste there money on things that would just sit in a closet or take it to another persons wedding. I have heard of it beign done before I just need to find out how. Well goodluck on your wedding.

Shut up sarah already...i am sick of reading your pathetic..opinions......there are other people out there with ideas too yours isn`t the ONLY WAY TO GO......just shut up already....

Not putting anything in your invites IS THE ONLY WAY TO GO if you don`t want to come off as a selfish spoiled brat. I am appalled by the nerve some people exhibit by saying that it is alright to tell people what to give you. Yes, people are entitled to their opinions, but those who have any sort of class would agree with me and do. Just as you have a right to say you think it`s alright (even though it`s not), I have a right to voice the fact that it isn`t appropriate and chastise those who would think it is.

My belief is, that if you get gifts like toasters that "you don`t need", then you could take them to Goodwill or some charitable organization, who could donate them to disadvantaged people who really need that stuff.

The more I have thought about it. It isn`t really that great to ask for money and I wouldnt do it. But you know sarah you say it isn`t tactful to ask for cash in place of gifts. Well they way you are bashing on people that need the cash isn`t very tactful either. You say asking for cash is downright rude, well the way you are acting is downright rude as well. It says these boards are suppose to be G rated well the way you are writing and acting isn`t g rated. So you may want to rethink your tactfulness and take your own advice. Have a good day all. I have decided to register at walmart that way if I do get something I dont` want I can take it back there for cash. You other people that need the cash may want to think about that. Well good luck all.

If you are that needy, then I hope you get all the cash that you want.

Being a single mom I am pretty needy of some cash. It would be nice to get cash instead of gifts so we could pay off some of our bills in a new marriage. That is why i would rather have cash than gifts and that is why I had asked. But the more I think of it the more it doesn`t sound right. Also those that know me and my fiance well enough should know that cash would be the best. But what gifts we do get that we dont` need we can always donate to those in need. Good luck everyone.

I never put down people that need cash. Myself, I need it. I am a full time student and have been living with my fiancee for 2 years. I don`t need a toaster. What I said, is no matter how much you need the money, there is no acceptable way to ask for it. Telling your guests what to give you is rude. It`s not sayiing that receiving it is rude at all. I suggest you reread my posts, because I never said poor people were in bad taste, only that telling people what to give you was. And as for my posts, not once have I swore (as many others have) and I am simply defending what is acceptable behaviour (as there are a few who don`t know).

The thing is, is that most of your guests are going to give you cash, because they know you well enough, and your bridal party, and family can tell people if they ask what you need or want. And you don`t come off as rude and self serving. You are inviting GUESTS to celebrate your special day. You cannot assume that they are going to give you gifts, though you know they will.Here in the midwest, 90% of guests will give you money. The registry is used for purchasing shower gifts, which is acceptable because the Bride does not host her own, and the whole concept of the shower is to "Shower the couple with gifts".

I once received an invite which said ` No gift boxes please` . I gave cash.

I must agree that any suggestion or mention of gifts or registry on your invites is in very poor taste. Perhaps you need to take a look at what you would do with the money. Perhaps you need a new couch, then you could registry for items at a store that sells couches and return the items you get from your registry and get the couch you need. Just don`t tell anybody!

We are registering at 2 stores, but we have told our parents that only if people ask to tell them that. If people don`t know what to get us, we asked our parents to mention that we are saving to buy a house and that if people want to help us get there sooner that cash is appreciated. ONLY if people ask are we giving this information.

Sarah,
Do you think it is any less rude to put in a card with your invite asking for gift vouchers for a furniture store to set up your new home if you can`t afford it? Or do you think that every bride who has a gift registery or asks for any kind of gift is RUDE!!!! It`s not fair how you are putting brides in need down I think you are the one who is being RUDE SO THERE HAHAHAHA!!!!!