Not Sure What To Do
I need help trying to figure out what to do. My maid of honor has over the last few months run into some problems. She got a DUI and everything is all messed up for her. She`s real excited about my wedding but all of my other girls don`t think they can count on her for anything, they said she`s too flighty (they didn`t say this to me, but in a conversation I was later give snidbits about) She hass made plans with me to do wedding stuff and has always backed out at the last moment but she did come to my party for all the girls to pick out their dresses and she was excited about that and she loves her dress. From what I was told is that the other girls are going to do my Bridal Shower but will not count on her for anything, becuase they don`t feel they can rely on her, which I don`t feel is fair for them. Now I`m worried and actually loosing sleep, but I can`t really talk to anyone because I`m not suppose to know and my mother would just tell me not to worry about it. So...should I talk to my Moh and see where she sits..offer her the way out if she wants out, should I just let things go and see what happens?
Posted by Carrie; updated 02/11/04
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Just talk to her and see were she stand let her know there is no pressure to be in the wedding but for your sake you need to know. Reassure her things will not change and and if its too much for her its ok just being there at the wedding is more than enough.
Posted by sabrina; updated 02/11/04
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Sounds tough. But honestly, I think you should talk to all the ladies involved. Seriously, this is a time in your life, when maturity and open lines of communication are most needed. I`m not saying you`re immature in any way, but you said you weren`t supposed to know, so you felt it would be hard to address the situation. Well, so what if you`re not supposed to know, you do, and it`s making you lose sleep! Do you think it`s making the other girls lose sleep? I doubt it. Take control of the situation, and address all ladies involved. Take the advice above for dealing with your MoH and depending on how that goes, then meet with the other girls and tell them how it`s going to be, and ask them to respect you and your day and just do the best they can. Good luck!
Posted by Krystyn; updated 02/11/04
