Money As A Gift

There isn`t any tactful way.

Do you think I should just say nothing - that i d ont expect anything - becuase i would rather have nothing than 6 toasters!!

It is rude and presumptious to put anything about gifts (monetary or otherwise) written on invitations. If you prefer cash, then let your mom know. She can tell people ONLY if they ask her. The best way is just not to register. Remember, you`re getting married because you love your FH, not to rake in the dough. Gifts are nice, but never required, and telling someone to give you cash is rude. Just be grateful for whatever you recieve, and if you don`t like the toasters or if you recieve a double item, you can either a) return it for a refund or exchange or b) donate it to someone who would appreciate it.

There is no tactful way to ask for money. It would just be tacky period.