What Is Too Young?
I am 18 and have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and now we are engaged. The thing is that i don`t want to get married for about 2 years from now. But i have this problem that my family still thinks that 20 is still too young to get married. I also care what my family think about what i do with my life. How do i go about still getting married and not messing this up wiht this one that i love?
Posted by Brianna; updated 02/04/04
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Only you can know when/if you are ready to marry. Young marriages have their own special set of challenges. I married at the age of 20. At the time, I felt that I was ready. I already went to college, lived on my own, and had a great job. My parents disagreed, but went along with it because they knew I would do it anyway. The marriage didn`t work out, and I look back on it as if it was a part of my childhood.
The moral of that story is...it is so hard to be certain that you know what you want from life at that age. Make sure that you have set a solid foundation for yourself and your life before you even think of sharing that life with someone else. Be aware that you will both be learning, growing, and changing.
If you do decide to marry, be prepared for what kind of people you both may grow to be. If you are willing to accept that people change as they mature, then you will be fine. Good luck to you!
Posted by Stephanie Fudge; updated 02/04/04
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What is the hurry? If you two are in love and meant for each other, etc. A few years shouldn`t make a difference. Start saving money for the future and your wedding. Make sure that you have everything set (you never will have EVERYTHING set, but when you feel like you do, the time is close to right). Go to college and meet people. Then, decide that he is definitely the one.
Posted by Somebody; updated 02/16/04
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I am 19 now and am getting married June 26, 2004. My fiance, 21, and I have been together for about a year and a half.
When we first started dating I had no intention of marrying him,or anyone else for that matter, so soon. At the time I was leaving for college, pumped and ready to party for a good four years. I didn`t want anything serious or long term.
However, soon after I left for college I realized that I loved him and had to make a decision. I couldn`t imagine being away from him for four years but at the same time I didn`t know if I should "sacrifice" my singleness.
To make a long story short, I knew I had to choose between instant gratification and long term goals. I never imagined the desicion would come so early in my life. But knowing I wanted a husband and family in the long run I withdrew from the school I was attending and transferred to a local college.
Honestly, I HAVE NOT REGRETTED a single move.
I love my fiance and the life we have together. I am absolutely thrilled that I have found someone to share the rest of my life with!
My advice to you is to is to look at the situation objectively, look at your boyfriend objectively. You make sure he is someone you can love for better or for worse and you make sure he will love you for better or worse. You find all his faults now and make sure you are willing to live with them.
GOOD LUCK
Posted by Kathleen Rohrer; updated 02/17/04
