Cash Bar
I just wanted to get your opinions. My fiance and I are paying for everything for our wedding from start to finish. I am not asking for any help from anyone.
I was talking to my neighbor about the wedding plans and she asked if we were going to have a cash bar at the reception. I have never heard of this. I have never been to a wedding were there was a cash bar. Is this a new thing or not at all.
Just wondering because I have never thought about it or heard about it.
Posted by Shelley Ann; updated 02/02/04
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It depends on where you are from. Some areas have cash bars and it`s completely normal, some areas don`t. For people to flat out say it`s rude, I don`t believe is a fair assumption. You are basing your thoughts on what you are used to and seen. I come from an area where cash bars are the rule, not the exception, and I have to tell you it`s quite accepted. However I have also been to other areas where it wouldn`t even be a thought, again thats fine.
But lets cut these people some slack, if they are having a cash bar, it does exist and it does occur and people are fine with it.
Posted by Nicollette; updated 02/02/04
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I have heard of cash bars, and did go to one. They started with a champagne toast and served dinner wine with the meal. Then the bar was opened and guests were responsible for what they drank. We certainly didn`t mind(as we are not big drinkers anyway), maybe some people did. But it is your wedding and you know what you can afford and you should use that as your guide. I also went to a Friday night wedding one time that served NO liquor...the couple did not drink and saw no reason to have a bar at all. Again it was a beautiful wedding and everyone had a wonderful time. Talk it over with your families and if any of your parents have a problem with the idea, ask them to foot the liquor tab! Good Luck let us know what you decide!
Posted by RecentBride; updated 02/02/04
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Personally, I feel you should offer what you can afford to pay for. A wedding is an event that is hosted, thus you shouldn`t expect your guests to pay for anything. I had an open bar at my wedding since my parents could afford it and I wanted to offer this option.
However, I`ve been to very few weddings that have NOT had a cash bar. I personally drink beer which is almost always free at weddings even if they do have cash bar. So, I`ve never been offended by the idea of a cash bar.......
Cash bars are not new. However, in some areas so few people do them that it`s a foreign concept for them. Since you aren`t familiar with them, it`s probably safe to assume that weddings in your area do not do cash bars. Thus, I wouldn`t recommend having one at your wedding - it may be culture shock for your guests if they aren`t accustomed to this practice.
That`s just my two cents though....you do what you are comfortable with......
Good luck!
Posted by Kay; updated 02/02/04
