Shower Invitations To Out Of Town People

My Mom thought that we shouldn`t send them to out of towners, because she felt we would look like we were fishing for gifts, but asked my Maid of Honor to invite my aunt (her sister) because she wanted her to see the handmade invites my MOH made using our fall theme.(They were so nice) And guess what, my favorite Aunt flew in from 1600 miles away to surprise me. So I think that for close family members it probably would be ok (not really sure of the proper etiquette here). At one time they use to say invite all the women that are invited to the wedding. I did not want a hugh shower, I wanted it more intimate with only close family and friends so we didn`t do that. It ended up with about 24 (including my big surprise)! It was perfect. So I think you can invite them who knows maybe someone will surprise you too!

I think that even though they might not come it would be appropriate for them to be invited. I would be upset if I didnt receive an inviation just because I lived a few hours away. Fishing for gifts never even came to my mind, hopefully your guests won`t think you are. Use your judgement, you know them best

There`s no reason why you shouldn`t invite the out of towners if they are close at heart. I would probably leave out more distant relatives or friends that aren`t as close. But a friend you`ve kept in touch with for ten years.. Or a close cousin or aunt - yes! If they`re dear to you then they`ll know you`re not fishing for gifts. You`ll have to make that judgement call.

Wanted to say also that I had several out of town aunts invited to my shower. I live in Virginia and two aunts drove down from New York and one flew down all the way from Maine for my shower! So, you never know what people who love you will do for you! And even if they can`t attend, I`m sure that they will have appreciated the thought of being thought of with an invitation.

ABSOLUTELY!!! Even if they most likely won`t attend it is still proper to invite. They would still like to know that they have been thought of and it keeps them informed of events that maybe they wouldn`t have known about. It certainly doesn`t hurt.

Krissy