Grandma`s Going BROKE!

Have you and your FH ever thought about paying for it your self? It is not fair that you just expect other people to pay... Traditions aside, if they dont have money, they dont have to help! so, get a job and have the wedding you want, on a budget YOU and your FH can handle, and quit expecting for others to just fork out money! =) I really hope you dont "Make your grandma broke"... That seems disrespectful!

First of all, I never said I "expect" other people to pay for this... What my grandma has paid for, was all on her own, she offered. Him and I are paying for a lot of things! Besides, that`s not what kind of advice I was looking for, But thanks. :0)

Yes Cortnie..things have changed...not everyone can afford to pay for a wedding......you can not expect for others to pay for it.....and if you are going to be old fashioned about others paying for the wedding...how about the brides parents????????if you need help maybe you and your fiance should sit down with your parents, and grooms parents and discuss what you want...and see if there will be any help..you can`t just expect them to hand out money......communicate and you may get some input into the situation....

Ok... My grandma IS "the brides parents" We have sat down and talked nothing got accomplished.

Cortnie,
I know you want to have the best wedding in the world hon, but at times we have to be realistic. Yes, it would be awesome if his parents would help, but they are under no obligation to. It is wonderful that your grandmother is helping so much. You can ask his parents for a loan which you can repay back little by little if possible.

If i was in your situation, i would do the following since you still have about 4-5 months to go.
1. Sit down and see what are the most important things i want in my wedding, than allot a certain amount of money to each item. For things that are not important, i would find very inexpensive ways to replace them.

For example; unimportant things to you might be the wedding favors. Than instead of getting something that costs $1-$2 a person, i would make cookies or something similar that would cost only .10 cents a person .

2. Get a part time job. Even working 10 hours a week at $6 will get you $240 dollars a month, multiply that by 4 months, and you will get something like $800-$900 dollars extra for your wedding..

3. BE creative, do alot of stuff yourself.

4. Enjoy yourself and your day. It only happens once a lifetime...

Thank you for your advice... About the working a part time job, We both work 40 hours a week already, (not getting much money though) He has 3 kids and i have a HUGE hospital bill. Believe me I`m not asking anyone to pay for anything at all, it may seem like it, but i promise I`m not! And I`m also not trying to sound like "poor me" I just needed that kind of advice you just gave me. Thanks again!