WEdding Gifts
It is tradition in my area that you open your wedding gifts the sunday after your wedding at the bride and grooms house or the parents house with your family and wedding party. My soon to be mother inlaw feels that you should not do this? She feels that it is noones bussiness what gifts you get and it should be between you and your husband? What are your feelings on this? My problem with this is that in my area that is what people expect what do I do?
Posted by Shannon; updated 01/16/04
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I think you and fiance should do what you want! I think that you both should kindly sit your FMIL down and tell her your decision and explain to her that it is your wedding and you feel like you would like to keep this tradition alive! (I have just recently been to a wedding that does that, where I am from it is not common)
Good luck, and stick up for yourself (in a nice way ofcourse, your FMIL will be in your life forever so you dont want any harsh felings)
=)
Posted by NiCole; updated 01/16/04
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Every wedding I have been to this has been done. I fully plan on doing this for my wedding. Usually what is done, is an informal announcement is made during the reception for people to join the bride and groom at so and so`s home sunday at noon (or whatever time). Usually you get older relatives (usually women I find) and close friends. In my family, we also have always used this as a way to get rid of the excess food from the wedding. I never have ever seen this as tacky. I always thought it was nice to see the B and G the day after the wedding after all the ruckus has calmed down and they are more relaxed. I would go for it. If she doesn`t want to attend, she can stay at home.
Posted by Sarah; updated 01/16/04
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They are YOUR gifts, so you and your new husband should open them however you like. If your new mother in law doesn`t feel the gifts are any of her business then she certainly doesn`t have to join you. If you`d like to open the gifts with your parents and wedding party, then go right ahead. Serve a little brunch and have a great time.
Posted by Linda; updated 01/20/04
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You should do what you want to do...alot of people like to see you open gifts, and it is part of their glory, in seeing you happy with what you got as gifts. We are however, going to have our gift opening on the sunday. But we are going early to open the gifts with close family and wedding party, and then have the guests that want to come and view the gifts. A lot of people give money as a gift, and I don`t want to be opening cards etc, infront of people and announcing that "Aunt mary gave $100 and Uncle Bob gave $40, i think this is would be insulting....and opening cash gifts should be done in private...etc......but you should do what YOU and YOUR HUSBAND are comfortable with
Posted by sibbonribbon; updated 01/22/04
