Friend Crisis
Hello all!
I was just going to ask for some opinions on my situation with some of my friends.
Ok one of my high school friends and I moved into together right after hs and then went to college about 4 years ago. Well i met my fianca right when we moved in together. I was totally on my own money wise. So therefore i had to take care of schooling, rent, etc. Well being a full time student and trying to work enough to stay in school and stay above water was kinda hard. So therefore I ddn`t really have time to go out with friends, plus my fianca lived about 2 hours away. So when i actually did have extra money and time i went to see him.
My friend (best friend at the time) and I didn`t really see out to out on things. She wasn`t paying for anything so therefore she had all the time and money in the world to have fun and go out.
So we drifted apart and we moved out after a year went by and we still haven`t really talked much.
She was a very important part in my life, and i still love her to death. She was like a sister to me. I hate seeing us like this.
I email her occasionaly, and we actually talked about stuff over thanksgibing when she was in town. But its still not the same.
I want to have her be a part in my wedding but what can I do. I already have my party picked out ( mostly family).
????? I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
Posted by belle; updated 01/06/04
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All I could really say from a planner`s point of view is when you look back on your wedding photo`s 50 years down the road...are you going to be sad she`s not in them? If you two drift apart again and don`t keep in touch will it have been worth it still?
I know that with her being a part of your past you would like to involve her but could you maybe assign her to something else just as important?
Could she be the one to plan your stagette or your bridal lunchon? Maybe you could involve her in other way`s either than standing up at thte alter with you if that`s an option.
If you have chosen family to be in your bridal party already think how difficult it would be to have to tell one of them "No". That now they have been replaced by someone you don`t even hang out with on a regular basis or talk to all the time. Even though you feel as though she is your "Best Friend" you may want to think about how much she has really been there for you and if it`s worth it.
I think you`ll be better off having your family stand up for you since they have always been there...but in your heart you already know what to do.
Best of luck and congrats!
Posted by selena; updated 01/06/04
