Fiance Wants To Help Bridal Registry.HELP!!
OK guys... Here`s the thing:
My bf is going around scanning things with me at a store we are registered at. He starts to disagree with me about what to scan. For example, something inexpensive like bowls.. He says, "we can buy those ourselves." OH.. The latest and BIGGEST dilemma: we have fine china and everyday dishes on the same registry. The everyday dishes are listed directly above the fine china. He is concerned that people will get us the everyday dishes over the fine china, and that we can "get our own" everyday dishes. We had a big argument over this. Like i said... The everyday china (Mikasa) is listed DIRECTLY above the fine china (Noritake). He wants to take the Mikasa off the registry. I know we won`t buy the dishes ourselves. I told him the whole idea is that it was a "gift"... And that we don`t dictate what they get us.
SO>>> the big thing here is this: should i take the "everyday dishes (china) off the registry. AND should my boyfriend even be helping me when all we do is fight and argue??
PLEASE HELP ME!!!
Michelle
Posted by michelle; updated 01/03/04
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You should leave both sets of dishes on the registry. It doesn`t matter what order there are in. There are some people who might think one is prettier than the other or one is more affordable than the other. Who knows. People will get what they like. Everyday dishes and fine china are traditional wedding gifts so people expect to see them on the registries.
As for your fiance helping you to pick items, of course he should be helping if he wants to. It`s his wedding too! What if he asked the same question? What if he said "should my girlriend be helping me when all we do is fight and argue?"
Why even argue? Why not just agree that you will put the things on that you like and he can put the things on that he likes. If you disagree on an item that you only need one of (like he likes the blue vase and you like the yellow vase) either agree to find a different vase or flip a coin. This is supposed to be fun for both of you, so you should both lighten up about it.
Posted by Kerry; updated 01/03/04
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Yes, he is a part of the marriage, so he should help you pick out your dishes.
If he says you two can buy it for yourselves, then ask him to buy it for you NOW. Or at least buy some of the dishes now.
You two need to be able to comprimise. Dishes are not the biggest problem you will face in your marriage.
Good Luck!
Posted by Becky; updated 01/03/04
