Not In The Spirit..........feeling Stressed!

What are the colors that you each want? Maybe there is a compromise. There`s usually a compromise to be found in almost every situation.

Well.........he was suggesting harvest gold or champagne....but I don`t know. I liked navy but everyone does that.....and I kinda wanted to be different. I suggested to him the raisin color and he freaked...............saying that it was ugly and when I showed him he just refused, but I honestly thoght it might look nice ya know.

I don`t see why you can`t have all three of those colors. Use navy as a main color because you both like it and use raisin and silver as your accent colors.

I meant to say gold rather than silver. (But you could use either silver or gold)

Hi Beth, I understand what you mean. I am trying to make our wedding the way we both(my hubby and I) want it to be but it is proving harder than I thought. I try to as his opinion on everything so that when the wedding is here he does not freak out but sometimes he makes that really hard but we always seem to come to an agreement for example, I LOVE purple and wanted our maids in that color but in his country purple is considered a funeral color (how morbid) so I asked him what he likes he said pastels, something light and them I chose the colors from that. I fell in love with the celedon green and Sky blue color and so did he. It is a compromise but you still have to remember that it is not only your day, it is his also. If you need any help with anything else feel free to email me at thevarietystore1@yahoo.com Have a blessed day.

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This is only the beginning and practice for real life. If you can’t get along and learn to compromise now, what will you do after the “I Dos?” Learn to compromise now. All that really matters is that at the end of the day you are married. This can happen whether you are married on a $50,000 budget or get hitched in potato sacks at the courthouse. All this other stuff is just fluff.

All those colors you mentioned go well together. COMPROMISE!!!! If you two keep looking, you will find something you both go Ga-Ga over… and it may not be anything you have in your mind today. My partner and I do that. We just keep looking and keep being patient and always we turn a corner, see “IT” and say, “Oh my Gosh!! That’s it!!” It honestly never fails.

Hi, Beth --

Your mention of colors focused all other posters who wanted to help, primarily on that.

Colors aside, what is REALLY causing you so much stress this early in the planning? I read your concern over cost ... Is that the main worry?

Bon

I thank you for all your thoughts, but I guess I am just not as excited as I should be because of my personal losses that I have in my life right now. To your question, Bonnie..........yeah I guess the cost thing is scaring me greatly, cuz I have no steady job and am having a difficult enough time with that, plus my fiance makes barely nothing himself at $11.50 hour...so to sum it all up.............my parents are divorced and there won`t be much help from that end which upsets me since that is usually the brides parents that help out ya know. I just keep crying and not knowing what to do so I guess that is my stress cuz I can`t seem to get focused or even excited bout it cuz of everything goin on now.

No, not all the posters were focaused on colors....

As I`ve already stated:

This is only the beginning and practice for real life. If you can’t get along and learn to compromise now, what will you do after the “I Dos?” Learn to compromise now. All that really matters is that at the end of the day you are married. This can happen whether you are married on a $50,000 budget or get hitched in potato sacks at the courthouse. All this other stuff is just fluff.

And I don`t mean compromise only on colors. Learn to live within your means. You obviously cannot afford an expensive wedding, so get your mind off of it. Will you be this way when you cannot afford an expense house or an expensive car or couch?

This is exactly why I say do not get married until you are earning enough to get married. Love is NOT enough to make a marriage. If you are stressing over money now, your marriage is already doomed.