Wedding Do-Over
I want to renew our vows at our 10th (2009). Our wedding was a shambles. The music was messed up, the minister did not do what we asked, AND forgot the communion supplies (at a catholic wedding this is a big deal), The vocalist did not sing the song we commissioned, just one thing after another. So I want to do it again and have more control over it. It was a horrible day as far as weddings go.
But the facts are we ARE already married. I don’t like these renewal vows that sound just like the original. And it doesn’t make sense to have someone give me away. So I’m kind of thinking it just can’t really be done. That wedding day is lost and ruined forever and all I can do it drive on.
Anyone have any ideas?
Posted by Dawn; updated 12/17/03
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Hi, Dawn --
Don`t give up so easily ... You can do it w/ some ingenuity & driven by your desire to do so!
I could probably offer some ideas, w/ some answers first.
(1) When & where did you originally get married?
(2) When & where would you like to hold a creative "renewal" or "rekindling" sort of ceremony?
(3) What sort of clothes do you see yourselves wearing for this?
(4) Would the same guests be invited?
Send the answers directly to me at: bonnie@mailblocks.com
I`ll try to send you some interesting ideas after that. Meanwhile, you might check out some of my website suggestions for all sorts of wedding-related ceremonies
Regards,
Bon
Posted by Bonnie; updated 12/17/03
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I`m renewing my vows in oct 04, since our 1st wedding my mom has passed, I got a poem and some nice pics of her at my 1st wedding I`m placing on the sign in table, I`m having my boys walk me down the aisle, I`m getting married and reception in same place. Put pics of your 1st wedding if u have some out, have your guests take your pics, put camaras on table those would be a great way to remember this wedding. If I can help let me know
Posted by brenda; updated 12/19/03
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I`m really sorry that you had a wedding that did not go as planned. I know that this is an important day in a woman`s life, but it is only one day. The marriage is what counts, and if you married the person that you really want to be with then I think that it would be perfect no matter what went wrong. I don`t think that renewing your vows would be of immense help the best thing already happened to you. Why re-do it again? -- This was written with a sincere meaning and not to try to be difficult
Posted by coldplay; updated 12/21/03
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Coldplay- I know you are not being difficult. This is the exact thing I tell my brides as an event planner. I truly don`t dwell on that day. But when peple mention weddings, I get kind of sad. It would be nice to have a nice wedding. But, like you, I don`t think it`s possible to re-live a day. It`s done and gone. Uncaring, selfish people ruined my day and there`s nothing I can do about it, ever.
All I know is I will never hire out for an event again as long as I live. I am an events planner and a very good one. I should have taken care of all the plans myself, even though it would have been difficult, I should have just done it all myself (with the help of my employees).
And it`s not just that I am hard to please, they stopped the music when I was half way down the aisle! I don`t think I`m being unreasonable by not understanding why this was a good thing. And as I`ve already stated, every last thing was not done to specifications. Simple things. The minister forgot her bible! How is this possible?
So, I just have to learn to live with the fact that no one that had control of the event cared about my day. How sad.
Posted by dawn; updated 12/21/03
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In my opinion on your anniversary is the perfect time. And if you are in the right frame of mind this could really be fun! Laughing together at everything that made you want to cry the first time sounds very cathartic to me.
L&L,
April
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Posted by Pastor April; updated 12/22/03
