Fiance Seeing Wedding Dress?

Lesa, it`s just a "tradition" (not "bad luck"), & couples often come down strongly about it on both sides of the issue. Here are your 2 main considerations in answering the question.

(1) How important is it for you to surprise your groom at the moment you walk down the aisle? Are you seeking for him to experience an "Oh, wow!" moment, blown away by this fantasy-creature he`s about to marry (ah, ... Keep in mind that this could back-fire just as easily, if he hates the look you`ve chosen!)? Or is it more important to you that he goes through the planning process with you, approving this look, & nixing (if he dares!) that one?

(2) The practical issue of when you want your photo-shoot (assuming you`re having one). If you choose not to be seen by your FI before the ceremony, wedding-party photos will likely occur between the ceremony & reception, meaning that you`ll miss out on your cocktail hour. If you & he, on the other hand, are seeing each other beforehand, the photo-shoot can take place before the ceremony.

Evaluating your own & FI`s priorities re these 2 issues should outweigh any outside mixed messages you`re encountering. It`s *your* wedding, not your friends`.

I don`t know if it`s a bad thing or not. My fiance has seen the a picture of the dress and has seen a small portion of the dress itself but has not seen it on me. That we will still have magic moment but I know that he likes the dress as well. I think it`s the best of both worlds.

Of course in the end...it`s all about what you and your fiance want.

My fiance and myself are very pleased with the replys and hope to here from more people who broke out of wedding have twos, BONNIE thankyou for your reply you gave us plenty of food for thought, we both prefer option 2 having the photos before, having remembered an old friends wedding where they spent a great deal of time being photographed while we where at the reception and didnt really want to go down that path but didnt even think of it until your message so thankyou, and to CARRIE thankyou to, it is comforing to no that im not alone and that there can be room for compramise. I look forward to more messages until then stay safe merry xmas to all.

I was so excited about finding the dress of my dreams, and since he is my best friend and I share every thing with him I immeditley show him the pic of it (since I bought it on line) When it came, He saw it then as well...but not on me! I think I am setteling in the middle with him knowing what my dress looks like, but not on me!
I think that you two should be the ones to decided what to do, definately not your friends! Good Luck and best wishes!

Merry Christmas =)

I would say that this would be totally up to you my Fiancee has seen a picture of my Dress but he won`t see me in it until our Wedding.

I am non-traditional by most accounts... But something stirred in me for this one. The previous posting is correct with the two main reasons. What I did is asked all the married people in my family what they did/how they felt about it. NO MATTER WHAT they were all happy. Those that saw each other before hand (before a tearful ceremony mascara issues etc) welcomed the eye in the hurricane moment to share just between the two of them. A friend even suggested that if I do that, arrange a videographer or someone to sort of memorialize that first time for YOU. The other camp that waits: no one I talked to that waited regreted it either. Where the first group said they felt calmed, that moment together, the second group wanted the fairytale. He may have seen the dress, pics, etc... But you will never look that way again. You will glow, your cheeks will hurt from smiling, you will be flawless- and that`s what is going to show, that inner feeling bursting out of you. WHO CARES if people have to wait for your pictures, you probably want some of them in your photos. Close your eyes and imagine walking down the aisle having him see you all done up for the first time.... What will it make you feel? Or, do you want to share that in private? I`m leaning toward not letting him see me....I`ll risk the make up mistakes. Enjoy!