Calling It Off !!!!!!!!
My Fiance have decided to cancel the wedding and take a 6 month break. Besides personally telling the immediate family. How does one go about letting everyone else know? I have few phone numbers for the distant relatives and my in laws guest list. Can I just send everyone on the invite list a letter announcing the cancelation and offering an apology? Thanks in advance for any advice.
Posted by Kristina; updated 12/07/03
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Have you sent the wedding invitations out yet? If they have not been sent then you can just tell your close friends and family members, the word will spread itself that your engagment has been broken. You need not offer explanations or apologies.
If you`re invitations have already been mailed, then that`s different. If the cancellation is a last minute thing then either you or the hosts need to phone the guests immediately and let them know.
If the invitations have been mailed and there is ample time remaining, the correct way would be to have cards printed up and mailed informing the guests of the cancelled wedding. The cards should be from the person (or people) that issued the invitation. For example if your parents issued the invitation the card would traditionally read something like this:
MR. AND MRS. WILLIAM SMITH
ANNOUNCE THAT THE MARRIAGE OF
THEIR DAUGHTER
JANE
TO
MR. GEORGE JONES
WILL NOT TAKE PLACE
If you and your fiance issued the invitations then it would read:
JANE SMITH AND GEORGE JONES
REGRET TO ANNOUNCE
THAT
THEIR UPCOMING MARRIAGE
WILL NOT TAKE PLACE
Also remember that any engagement/wedding/shower gifts must be returned to the giver with a note of thanks and regret.
I hope things work out for the best for you. Good luck!
Posted by Linda; updated 12/08/03
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What if you were going to have a big wedding but then changed your mind and are only having a SMALL wedding with immediate family? How would you go about that?
Posted by Ashlie; updated 02/08/04
