Two Dads, Who Gets The Honors?

Why not have both walk you down the aisle?

My parents are divorced, and for my wedding I wanted to include them both, and not give one a bigger part of the celebration than the other. So all three of us walked down the aisle, and it worked out great.

KD

I would have both. But, if you can`t, i would go with the stepdad, he`s the "real" father here

My opinion is to have your "dad" walk you down the aisle. If this is what you want. Don`t worry about hurting your biological father`s feelings. If he was worried about yours he would have made an effort earlier in your life. I would invite him, include him in everything else to be fair to him, but when it comes to giving you away, it really should be the dad`s job. It sounds like he was the one always there for you. This is your wedding day. Do what YOU want to do.

Best of wishes,
Jennifer

Thank you so much Jennifer. Thats what I thought too. I guess I just needed to here someone else say it was ok to do. I had also thought about both of them giving me away, but it would almost be a slap in the face to my dad who has ALWAYS been there for me. At least thats how I see it. Thanks for the advice. I`ll keep it all in mind when making my final choice. But I`m 99 % sure it will be the man who has been my DAD for as long as I can remember.:)

Why not have your biological dad walk you down the isle to where your step-"real" dad is sitting they shake hands your biological takes his seat and your "real" dad walks you the rest of the way down the isle and gives you away. This way they both have a part and your "real" dad has the real honor.

You can have both walk you down the aisle, but my feelings are this. If I was in this situation, I would have my "step" Dad do it ALONE he earned that right. Yes, your biological Dad can be invited and I`m sure he will understand, he`ll know deep down that this is the way it should be! And he`ll also know why, as will everyone else at the Wedding who know you well. During the announcements at the reception they can announcement...Mother and Father of the Bride and announce your Mom and Step Dad and then have them announce the father of the Bride and announce your real Dad, also on the program you can list Parents of the bride with your Mom and "Dad" and follow it with Father of the Bride and his name.....everyone will get the hint, and you are still including your biological Dad.But my feeling is let the Dad that put in the blood, sweat and tears have the HONOR of walking his little girl down the aisle. Not the one who only put the sperm in.

My cousin also has that feeling. But she is a little close to her father. So she decided that one will walk her down the isle and the other will read a scripture out of the bible, as a blessing. That way Both have a very special part in her wedding. GOOD LUCK!

Have your DAD.....(step father) walk you down the isle.... He was the one who raised you. Have your bio-dad do something else.

I have a similar problem for my wedding on 10-02-04. I have both a father and a stepfather, but unlike you, both "dads" have played an equal role in my life. Both have been there for me through thick and thin, but each HATES the other with a PASSION!!! To ask one over the other would be a HUGE insult, but to ask them both to walk me down would result in WAR between the two!!! My final decision is to walk down the aisle by myself.

Nicole,
Are you close to your Mom? If so she could walk you down the aisle, I`m seeing that more and more...just a thought!

Nicole, nobody gets along my mom and dad can`t talk to my bio dad for more then two seconds without fighting. I hope for there own sakes that they keep the peace at my wedding or they are all going to have to leave. I am going to have my step "DAD" walk me down and give me away. I`ll fing soming else for my bio dad I just dont know what yet. Thanks everyone for all the help.

Well my friend had same problem, what she did was, her biological father walked her half way and step-dad was waiting in the middle and walked her the rest of the way.