September 11 Wedding

Hmm. Just my opinion of course, but I think there`s a bit too much stigma attached to that day. Years from now, there still will be. When people hear that date, they`re not going to think, "Di`s wedding" first.

If you`re planning for a Saturday, that`s still a couple of years in the future isn`t it? Surely still enough time to find a day that could be remembered as yours and not a day of disaster.

KD

I thought about that day also bec when I called at one place to ask for september 2004 availability they told me they only have september 11, 2004 and I told myself do I really want to celebrate that day while I know a lot of people are thingking about their love ones that they lost. It`s up to you.... On how you want your wedding to be remembered

Hi! I am also planning my wedding for Sept. 11th. We wanted to have our wedding the weekend after labor day. Not too hot, not yet cold. Plus we have friends weddings to plan around. And since leap year is next year that makes it the 11th!! I don`t think its a terrible thing at all to plan it that day. Yes something tragic did happen on that day. But life still goes on, and you should not live in fear. If you do you have let the terrorist win, so don`t consider it awful to wed on that day. (just an example) could you fault people who have babies that day... Or that was already there birthday. Would you tell them not to celebrate b/c something bad happend? No!
So if thats the day you want your wedding by all means Have your wedding September 11th! Make something special happen that day! Don`t forget what happened... But don`t stop living your life either. I wish you all the luck planning you wedding Di. If you need anything let me know.
~Nichole~

I would not worry about it. I live in ny and was seriously affected by 9/11. Most people don`t sit home and mourn on the day - we go to work like it was any other day. By next year people will have some additional time to deal better. A five hour party should not upset anyone.
I`m sure people who got married on pearl harbor day had to deal with the affects of that day for years.
Don`t worry & have fun

Thank you!! Thats exactly how i feel!! So Di. If you want your wedding that day DO IT! know you are not a lone. Thats the day of my wedding also! Have a GREAT time planning.

My husband and I were married 21 years ago on Sept. 11th. Back them no one even new what 911 was. Even though something tragic happened that day it is good to see the good in the world continues. I don`t see anything wrong with it. We`ve been celebrating this day for 21 years! If you and your fiance are good with it then go forward.

I think it would be awesome if you and your significant other placed a memorial candle in view in memory of the victims of September 11th.

Thats a nice idea! I will run that by my fiance. And Lili congratulations on a long lasting marriage. I think its a wonderful thing to hear people that last through many years. My parents just celebrated their 30th! It really is an inspiration to us young engaged couples. Thanks for the advice!

Actually, I *almost* had this problem. I was planning my wedding for the saturday after labor day (thinking it was the 10th for some reason)... But since my finance is jewish (and apparently they don`t get married on saturdays) we booked that sunday..that was when I realized that would be 9/12..I`d had my days all screwed up. If you really want to use that weekend, but feel weird about getting married on 9/11, perhaps you would consider getting married on a sunday, or would that be out of the question? Sunday works out to be a good day because most people get married on saturdays so we got discounts on the band and caterer.

Otherwise, I wouldn`t worry to much about it. If your heart is set on that day, then you should just go for it.

I would say go for it.....It will give you and your loved ones something positive and happy to remember on that day.

Hi everyone,

I`m a freelance writer working on an article about people who have chosen -- and have NOT chosen -- to get married on September 11, 2004 (one of my best friends is getting married on this date - thus, the article idea).

If you would be willing to be interviewed for this article, please contact me and put "September 11th wedding" in the subject line.

Thank you in advance! Best wishes to everyone.

Robyn B.

I see September 11 as no different than any other day where something tragic has happened. Are people just supposed to rule out every day that a tragedy has happened on? That would narrow the possible days to get married on quite considerably. Look at Pearl Harbour, D Day, The atomic bomb, The assassination of JFK, Lincoln, Martin Luther King, and on and on and on. These days live in our memories, but we remember the events, not the date. The day of the week, the month, this is not what caused the tragedy. These events could have happened just as easily on another day of another month, even on another year. To hold to a date as a symbol of tragic events is foolish. Yes, we need to remember the events and learn from them, but let the day also bring rise for celebration and love and joy. I`m sure all of those who died in this tragedy would not want people to stop their lives for one day every year in grief. They would want the world to live and celebrate life, for that is what is precious any day of the year.

Hi,

I am also thinking of getting married on Sept 11th, and it looks like we`ll be booking the date on Monday. I feel okay about it too.

No way!
I think its awful to get marries on 9/11.
Everyone associates that day with death and destruction, and is that how you really want to start your married life?
Your day should be unique and special, not in the shadows of a terrorist attack.
No way!

After much thought and serious discussion on the subject, we will be getting married the weekend of september 11th. As a couple, we feel comfortable doing this because we want to bring goodness to a day that is associated with tragedy. It may not be for everyone though, which is quite understandable.

I feel that getting married on 9/11 so soon after the tragedy takes away from the celebration of lives lost. Maybe in a few years the idea will sit better with me. For now, I have a friend who is getting married on 9/11 of this year and I just think it is in poor taste.

Celebration?? Why would you celebrate someone dying? Remebering them, YES! But we need to move on with our lives and not let a horrible act dictate how we live. Horrible, Tragic things happen every day! Its a sad, unfortunate part of life. We are still living. Why can`t we `celebrate` our new life together, while `remebering` those who died.

Hello,
I am also having my wedding on Sept. 11 `04. We did not plan this intentionally, but due to our location that was the best Saturday available for several reasons. At first I was not sure how I felt about the date, but after discussing the issue with several friends I have come to realize how important it is to celebrate LIFE! What better occasion than a wedding or birth. There are going to be other horrible events in our lifetime...and unfortunately we cannot control them. Looking back in history we could associate everyday with a bad event...for someone at least. I was born on June 6th...which also happens to be D-Day. Celebrate your wedding...celebrate life in also remembering the tragic event of that day...celebrate a little more because we are alive!

I am writing an article for New York Magazine about couples weighing whether or not to have a wedding on September 11. We are looking for couples to profile. Please email me if you are interested or know someone who might be: jevano@hotmail.com
Thanks

I too am getting married on sept 11th 2004! and everyone here is correct when they say what about pearl harbor or JFK or ML King !My mother died on july 4th 2003 and my fiance`s brother died Dec 25th 2002 Now tell me should we not celebrate those holidays! I think sept 11 for us is a perfectly fitting day !