Help, How Do I Disinvite

If your dad does not receive an invitation it should be quite clear to him that he is not invited. However, he may still assume he`s invited and I can understand your situation and how difficult it is. You could send him a letter explaining to him that due to family conflicts that you will not be inviting him to your wedding.

I know it`s easier said than done and it`s easy for me to sit at my PC and tell you how easy it is to do. I feel bad for you and I hope all turns out well.

I agree with the previous post....but I think you need to call him, if in fact you do have telephone contact with him. If you usually correspond by mail I guess it should be acceptable, but I think you should actaully talk to him and explain the situation.....Good Luck!

I do not want my dad at my wedding either...I have not talked to him in quite a while, but am close to his side of the family so I just had my Uncle tell him NOT to show up. It is your day and if you dont feel comftorable with him being there do not invite him. I do agree, since you do still talk to him just call and tell him or have someone spread the word for you and definately do not give him an invitation.

Well since you talk to your dad about the wedding it`s only fair that he would assume he`s being invited. If you didn`t want him to come why do you talk to him about the wedding and give him details about who is giving you away and such? Why instead didn`t you have a conversation with him about why you don`t want him to come?

I didn`t have the conversation with him because I am scared of hurting his feelings and he also has a way of controlling the conversation so I really didn`t have that much say except to answer his questions....so now I need to call and tell him but I am just looking for ways to tell him......thanks

I have a better idea. Invite your father and tell your sister to grow up.

My sister is all grown up it is my dad that is immature, like I said before he has not been there for me since I was in the 6th grade however my sister has always been there for me so inviting my dad over my sister is way out of the question....what I am asking for advice on is how to approach my father...not who to invite, that decision has already been made...thankyou

Vicki, I totaly understand where you are coming from! I am more like your sister though, not talking to my dad at all. You have to think of it as he has obviously hurt your and your sisters feeling so much, so why spare him? He has done it to you. It might seem harsh but you have to be happy. FOr the one who said to tell your sister to grow up, you have no clue what it is like, it is way more that that!

Well the one who said that may not have a clue what it`s like, but I have a clue. I am almost in the same situation and I have to agree with the person who said invite your dad and tell your sister to grow up.

My situation is not my dad, it is my brother. My brother, long story short, has been trouble in our family for many years. My sister has not communicated with him in at least ten years. I talk to my brother on occasion, but not very often. I am VERY close with my sister. She has been a source of strength and support in my life. However, when I mentioned to her that Kevin (my brother) and his long time girlfriend probably won`t afford to make the long trip for my wedding, my sister went ballistic on me that I would even invite him. She then told me that if I do invite him and he responds that he will attend she will not come to my wedding (she is my moh!).

I was very upset at my sister for this. I sat her down and told her that it was totally wrong for her to give me ultimatums about my guest list and to force me to make choices between my family members. I respect the fact that she wants no communication with my brother and I don`t force her to speak with him or try to make her feel guilty about it. But she does not respect the fact that I do want to keep the lines of communication open between me and him and I want him to be at my wedding. How dare she put me in the middle of HER problem. I told her that she does not have to speak to him at all if he comes to the wedding. He won`t be in the wedding party and he won`t be seated anywhere near her. She has no obligation to even acknowledge his presence. My brother is not the kind of brother I would wish on anyone, but he`s still my brother and I do feel something for him. It is my wedding day and it is WRONG for anyone put me in a position of choosing one loved one and leaving out another loved one because of their feelings. It`s not my sister`s choice and I will not let her emotionally blackmail me.

After our long talk, she agreed with me and apologized. She still doesn`t understand at all why I would even consider inviting Kevin, but she now understands that forcing her desires about my guest list on my wedding day is wrong.