Big Wedding

Um, I`m confused. Are you putting this up here as a statement or are you asking what other people think of a bridal party so large? I`m not sure what you`re looking for with this post.

Good for you.

So?

What did you do? Put an ad in the Sunday Paper?

One word: Tacky

I`m not sure why you`re putting this here either. If it`s for advice, I`d say you went way overboard. If it`s just a statement, then, um, way to go? I`m not trying to be rude....I just think that`s way too many people in the party to even make it special. Being asked to be an attendant is an honor, but in your case it`s like you asked everyone you knew. Just my opinion.

Umm.. Yeah.. 50 people walking down the aisle and standing up at the altar with you. Sounds like a circus not a wedding. What`s your reasoning for this?

One other thought I had on your Bridal-Party-Groupie Plan --- have you considered how long it will take for 24 girls to walk down the aisle AND two flowergirls? Your guests may get bored and fall asleep before you even get ready to walk down that aisle and those poor musicians may need a meal to keep their energy up. Also, your head table will practically need it`s own room to seat 50 people.

Remember, this is a wedding not a cirucus. It`s your day and if you don`t opt to take any of our advice then that`s your choice. However, what you are doing is pretty odd by most people`s standards.

Well thanks for clearing that up, Freda....

Wow, you ladies really know how to rain on someone`s parade.

I don`t see this as raining on someone`s parade....I see it as giving some outside thoughts to something that she posted. I am thrilled for her that she and her future hubby have so many friends that they want to include, but I think there are other ways to include them all. I personally wouldn`t want to sit through 20 some people walking down the aisle before the bride...She could include some of them by doing readings during the ceremony, or by being the ushers, etc. Your attendants should feel special that they are able to be up there with you on your day, but if I were in that group, I wouldn`t feel that way because it seems as though she asked everyone she knew. I just think scaling down the attendant number would be a smart think to do, but in the end, it`s her day and she should have the wedding that she wants. Again, most of these responses have been nicely written, for the most part, and I don`t see it as raining on someone`s day. Just my opinion though....=)

I agree.
How special is it to be asked to share in someones day when there are 50 other people who were so "honored" to be invited? Seriously. Think about it. If I were asked and I found out there were that many, I would be offended, not honoured. Geez, even royalty don`t have that many when they get married, how pretentious and snobby this sounds to me. And judging from most of the comments on this board, most other people feel the same way. I wouldn`t even go to the wedding, who wants to sit for 10 minutes while the wedding party files in? Think about it, it seems like a waste of time and money on everyone`s parts, except for the B&G who seem to think it`s okay to inconvienience everyone around them. Then again, it is "their" day and I guess they can do whatevery they want, they obviously are.

I too do not feel anyone is raining on her parade. This bride is going to do what she wants in the end. However, it is a very odd post. She doesn`t seem to have a point to her statement. Does anyone really care if this lady who we will never meet has a thousand bridesmaids? No, probably not -- but her guests will care that she is turning something sacred into a big production with her bridal party. Therefore, we are all urging her to cut the number down -- A LOT.

Trim the fat honey!

BTW, that last post is a different Heather than me - I`ve been the one posting here, nicely....