Requests

There is NO polite way to ask for money.
1) see all the other posts on this topic
2) You never put any type of gift request in a wedding invitation (money or otherwise)
3) 99% of people will be extremely offended
4) The ONLY polite way to let it be known you prefer money is via word of mouth (tell parents, etc. They are the one`s people will ask)
5) Most people give money nowadays anyways
6) Some people believe giving money is rude, wanted or not
7) It`s presumptious, you invite people to share in the joy of your union, not give you gifts. If they do great, but never assume that you are going to be getting one.

Sorry, but these are all true. I`m not trying to rain on your parade, just inform you what is and is not socially acceptable. (even though some other`s of lower class would disagree). Please, don`t send the message to your guests that you belong in a trailer park. Show them how dignified and classy you really are. They will respect you more for it.

Usually, I would agree wholeheartly with Sarah. I am a BIG supporter of argueing to keep some manners and etiquette in our society. When I started to read your post I thought .....oh here we go agin...when will these people get it, It is never proper to ask for money......and I still am not comfortable saying it out right like that. But since you are both in the military it would be crazy for people to give you things...I think on the invitation or as an insert you could just put in there something like....Jason and I will be leaving for--------wherever ......we want you to know that we feel your presence is present enough for us. Then of course they will give you money without your asking. Then if people ask your family they should just say they need money! Good Luck and thank you for all you and your fiancee are doing for us in this country!!

I agree, although it is still wrong, and tacky to ask for money!