NEED HELP ON HINTS FOR RENEWING VOWS

Hi, Brenda --

Begin by asking yourselves some basic questions ...

*Was your original ceremony in a church, or some other sort of site? Would you like to use the same sort of site, or not?

*What did you like about the ceremony you had? What didn`t you like?

*Do you want to include any people who comprised your original wedding party, if you had one?

*Whom else might you like to include more intimately, this time?

*How many guests will you invite? And what experience do you want them to have in being witnesses to your renewal ceremony?

Once you`ve answered these sorts of questions, you are well on your way. For a recommitment ceremony ~ like the wedding ceremony itself ~ can include (& exclude) anything you want. (Note: religious rules might impinge on this.)

The most basic elements of both are: a Welcome to Guests; some combination of Intent/Vows/Rings; & a Pronouncement of what`s just occurred, w/ or w/o a Blessing. A whole host of other elements can be included, but they ought to be "front-loaded" before the Vows-section.

Above all, make the ceremony represent who you both are, & how you want to be for each other during this moment. This "authenticity"-question makes or breaks the ceremony. Be yourselves.

Regards,
Bon

Congrats on getting back together!

My husband and I were married when we were 19/20, and our parents were not too happy about us getting married. But you know kids, we decided to go to the justice of the peace anyways. So 5 years later we are planning a nice renewal of vows the way we wanted our 1st wedding to bo. Yes, I am wearing a dress (asked all the people that were important to me what they thought of me wearing the dress of my dreams, and EVERYONE wanted to see me in my dress) . We are then going to have a nice downscaled reception that is celebrating 5 years of marriage.

Good luck, and let me know if you have anymore questions!

Thank you both for the help, We had the wedding of my dreams when we first got married. The whole 9 yrds, except what is different is my mom has passed since then, but I`m including a very nice poem that I received from here to include her. Since our marriage my husband is now asst. Man of a very nice banquet facility which we are going to use this time instead, we gad ceremony and reception at the same place, same justice of the peace, as far as wedding party there will be changes, and I would like my sons to walk me down the aisle instead of my dad, but dont want my dad to get offended, sowhat do you both suggest there?