How To Incorporate Baby

Personally, I wouldn`t incorporate a nine month old. Way too young.

You could do a family dance afterwards with you and your groom holding your daughter as you dance. You could also have her in a pretty little dress and have an older flower girl or junior bridesmaid carry her down the aisle with them. Other than that I don`t have any more ideas for a child that age. Good luck

Sara,
Congratulations btw..on both your little girl and your engagement. ;) My son was in my wedding at 4 months old. We had a part in our ceremony with him in it with the preacher said a little part that ment that we were coming together as a family. It was special to me and he was in picture with us also. One of my favorite pictures of that day is of me holding him. Go with what you think, remember this is your day.
As for outdoor ideas, there is alot of things you can do. Let me know some of your details and I can come up with some ideas. I just did flowers for an outdoor wedding a couple of weeks ago. Would love to try and help you more...

My cousin recently was married and her son was 11 months old at the time. Well, he was too shy to walk down the isle with the rings, so they had an older boy pull him down the isle in a red wagon. The priest also joined them all as a family during the ceremony. It was so precious to see him included in the weddding. The wagon was an added bonus when it was nap time too! :) Good way to keep him entertained! One of our Uncle`s put an empty beer can by his head and took a picture. It was cute. :)

Sorry this is off the topic, but I was just shocked by the beer can remark. A beer can at a wedding? You mean they didn`t even have the decency to pour your uncle`s drink into a glass at an event such as a wedding that is supposed to be a classy affair?

I meant a beer bottle. :) They served mixed drinks, wine, and beer by the bottle.

PS- I live in South Dakota... :) That should answer about the beer bottle!

Okay but I`m still shocked. I`ve never seen people at wedding receptions drinking from cans or bottles. You are telling me this is a South Dakota trend?

So you want to flaunt the fact that you had a baby together before you got married? This is something you are proud of and want others to know about?

Kathryn, I`m sure everyone already knows about it. The baby will be nine months old! As for being proud, maybe they are not proud of the fact that they had a baby before being married, but they are no doubt proud of their baby! I can understand wanting to hide a pregnancy, but hide a baby? Should all single mothers disinclude their children of any age simply because they were born to unwed parents? Don`t be so ridiculous.

I guess at all the weddings I have been to, I have always seen beer bottles. I didn`t know that it was so tactful. Well, in our area it isn`t. I guess I can see it being tactful in some other areas.

As for wanting to bring the child into the wedding- I think it is a great idea. There are many people today who have children out of wedlock! It is okay!!! My husband and I have been married for the past 2 years, and together for 10 years. We have 2 children, ages 3 and 5. The reason why we put off marriage was because I was in Law school and he had just graduated from school. Marriage was the last thing on our mind. We were too busy with school and the kids. Plus we didn`t have the extra income to spend. As of having children, we had NO problem having them before we were married. I think that if you have children, you should include them in the wedding. It`s a great idea!

Libby - do you know the definition of tactful? Maybe you meant tactless. Oh yeah, and so busy with law school that you had the time and energy to produce two children but not to get married? Where`s the logic in that?
Oh well. I do agree with everyone though. It`s not such a good thing to have children out of wedlock, but if that`s how it is then you obviously can`t hide them away.

I just recently met a couple who got married civilly and then a year later had a big wedding. They had a daughter who was 7 months old when they had the big wedding. She was carried up the aisle by the groom`s family in the entrance, and at the end of the ceremony a lot of pictures were taken with her in it. It looked so wonderful!

Thank you to all the people who gave ideas to incorporate my baby into my wedding. And to those who didnt have anything good to say...maybe you shouldnt have even replied. I am VERY proud of my baby, and i am not ashamed to have her before i was married...i wouldnt have changed anything even though our wedding was planned before she was concieved!!!

Sara

I am in the same boat. My Fi and I had our baby in Aub 03 and getting married in Mar 04. We are having my best friend walk her down the asile.
If you want share ideas feel free to email
Me at lil_miss_something@yahoo.com
As per the response I find you VERY RUDE! This is not a place of bashing people, I being a teenage mother at 17, now 26 with 3 beautiful girls, I feel that you need to Back Up. I no at least myself have done more than most "non-mothers" or ppl my age with my life. Yes this includes Graduating and college!

Sara Stand Proud and tell them yo go to He!! I sure Do

My fiance and I gave birth to our son in June 2001 and are planning our wedding for October 2004 in which our son will be our ring bearer. He will be a little over three years old by then, but I am considering that he may be unable to walk down the aisle alone. I am pretty crafty and am looking into ways to convert his stroller into a more formal carriage; covered in white and decorated with flowers. We are planning to have our favorite nephew stroll our son down the aisle. I have never seen this done before and am very excited about it!

What we are planning to do is have the children come up after we`ve done our Vows & have the minister pronounce us as a Family & have a Family picture taken. I hate to say that I`m appalled by some of the NARROW minded people on this board that think that we should hide our Children & I wonder what year they are living in.
Tami

What a topic!!! I will be photographing a couple who`s baby will be 9 or 10 months old at their July wedding. I love the idea about the wagon and will be sure to talk to them about it.
As for having a baby first...I think all of you with rude comments, this is not the place...please head to your local catholic church and join a group there...they love to bash people who do things they don`t like. And we have learned, most of you are most hypocritical and mean spirited...
So for the rest of us...live and let live !
And have a great wedding with your new baby!!!!